Why is he so cold?

[katroy13]

So my ex and I dated for about 6 months, in July he left for Basic Training and everything was great. I was thrilled when I got my first letter from him and his mom and I were starting to get along really well and she and I were keeping in touch over Facebook. After a while though, I would go on Facebook and see his mom mention that his parents would be getting letters almost weekly, while I was lucky to get 2 a month. Once I left for college his mom started getting very nosey. She was asking me if I was skipping classes and partying, which I tolerated it as a mother making sure her son wasn't getting cheated on. I drew the line when she lectured me over Facebook about how sex is for after marriage. My ex and I hadn't even reached that point in our relationship yet so I had no idea why she felt the need to bring it up. After that his parents went down for his Basic Training graduation. Once they came back and he got transferred to AIT, where he was given his phone, all communication to me stopped. She stopped messaging me and it was like he forgot I existed. About a month of not hearing anything from him, I sent him a long Facebook message about how much I missed and loved him. That night I saw he had read it and that he had been online, but he never responded. That weekend he finally called me and we talked for hours like usual and everything felt fine. After that it was almost another month and a half before I got a call from him again and that was after the fact I messaged him on Facebook saying how I couldn't wait to hear from him again. That conversation was so awkward it was like we were complete strangers meeting for the first time. Finally after thinking about it for a few weeks, I realized that the relationship wasn't healthy for either one of us and that we should break up, and if things worked out, maybe we could try again when he got home. I waited a few weekends to see if he would call me, and when he didn't I messaged him on Facebook asking him to call me. Wouldn't you know, he calls me that night. I ask him if he thought our last conversation was awkward, and he agreed he felt the same way. After trying to think of how to exactly say it, since I had never broken up with anyone before, he asks me without hesitation "do you want to break-up?" so I said I did but I didn't and I stated my reasons for each. Again, without hesitation he asks, "do you want to break-up?". By this point I figured he felt the same way so I said yes I did. After that it was like a switch went off on him. It was just one word answers. I said I still wanted to be his friend since he was probably the best boyfriend I had had so far. He pretty much said "you'll go your way, I'll go mine." The next few days I felt awful and like I had made a huge mistake, but I finally got over it. But to make sure we both got closure I sent him a Facebook message with everything I had wanted to say the night we broke up, but didn't know how. I pretty much poured everything I had into it and telling him I loved him and I always would. He responded a few days later saying "don't worry, you didn't hurt me. I felt it was time for us to break-up too. Can I have my stuff back?" So I thought all was good. I told him he wouldn't get his stuff back until the next time I was on break. Yet, a few weeks later he messaged me asking if I had sent his stuff out. Strange he has no problems contacting me now. Anyways I mailed all of his stuff back even the necklace he bought for me, because I didn't feel right keeping it. So fast forward to my spring break, and my friend and I are going to see some old classmates in a battle of the bands contest. Just as the last band goes on, who happens to walk in? My ex, my bff's ex, and their other friend. While the judges were finalizing the winners, my friend and I got to talk to our friends who performed. The one friend that I really wanted to talk to was talking to my ex and his friends, so I figured give them their space, I can always talk to my friend later. After the winner was announced I was finally able to meet up with my friend and catch up. As we were doing that, my ex and my bf's ex walk up to us, completely ignore me and talk to my friend. Can someone please tell me what his deal is? Because I'm pretty sure he said he felt it was time for us to break-up to, so if anyone could give me their input, that would be wonderful. Sorry for the super long post by the way!