hurst9 Posted March 8, 2014 Posted March 8, 2014 Met this girl on Cl last year. Went on a couple dates. I got drunk on our first date. But didn't do anything crazy. We went on a couple more dates, some kissing, touching but no sex. She wanted to be friends because she thought i was too into clubs and drinking. We would text sporadically but that was it. Saw her once last summer, we kissed and touched. After that she would not see me again. Near the end of Jan she texted me. I told her I didn't like bars and drinking any more. Her attitude changed completely. All of a sudden she is texting me everyday. And since feb we see each other once a week on our days off. Even though she says she wants to be friends she is always touching me, sometimes she puts her arm around mine when we walk. or I will put my arm around her. We went to a movie, she put her head on my shoulder and I had my hand on her leg for most of it.. sometimes I wrap my arms around her from the back and hold her tight. She seems to like that. I am just wondering, since this is my first female friend, is this normal friendship behaviour, or do you think there is something more? Obviously I am attracted to her, otherwise I wouldn't touch her or hangout with her as much as I do.
BikerAccnt Posted March 8, 2014 Posted March 8, 2014 Tough one. She may well just like you as a friend, or there could be more. There is only one way to find out depending on what YOU want. One thing I've noticed over the years is that woman often treat male friends slightly differently than they do their female friends even if they have no romantic inclinations. This includes flirting, touching etc. There are differences in the sexes, regardless of what liberals might say, so just enjoy it unless it bothers you. I have a close friend, female, I've known for..god, nearly 25 years now. On occasion we go out together, alone. We see a band, grab a bite to eat, whatever. She' very flirtatious by nature. We went to see a band the other week and she was sitting behind me on the bar, resting both hands on my right shoulder with her head in her hand on. Flirtatious yes, but I know her, it allowed us to talk because she was close enough to my ear that I could hear her over the band! Anyone that saw us, would have thought we were on a date. She's very touchy feely. I accept that, knowing that it's all there is too it. After all these years, even if she were to become suddenly interested, it would be too much like being with my sister! 1
carhill Posted March 8, 2014 Posted March 8, 2014 Ersatz boyfriend. I am just wondering, since this is my first female friend, is this normal friendship behaviour, or do you think there is something more? She likes that you're attracted to her and that she can control the interaction. Tip: You've already dated. You've already kissed and engaged in boyfriend/girlfriend type behaviors. Relationships progress or they end. Yours went backwards because you let it. You have choices. The fact the you stated she refused to see you after you kissed her the last time is all I need to know. Move on. She can enjoy socializing with you *and* your girlfriend on occasion, as *friends* do.
JungleLover Posted March 9, 2014 Posted March 9, 2014 If you are attracted to her then continue to push the envelope. It doesn't seem like she solidly sees you as a friend. I would avoid heavy, pressure-like conversation such as asking her where you stand with her. Just keepi doing what you are doing and taking it further gradually. Of course this all depends on what you are looking for in dating. I don't believe that every woman you date or pursue must be your future wife.
newmoon Posted March 9, 2014 Posted March 9, 2014 sounds like it could be a FWB situation if u want that
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