Jonson Posted March 8, 2014 Posted March 8, 2014 So been dating a nice girl for 4 months no arguments or problems getting along very well and is all awesome so far. She told me she was in love with me and falling for me big time as i was her. So a week ago or so she says she having problems with her family and she takes it out on me. She kinda calms down after a bit and sends me a im sorry card and she said can we meet up on a certain day and hang out im like ok cool. So just before this when she argued with me she asked for some space so i gave it. So i dont text her or call in the day like i usaually do, i send her a goodnight text and she replies, nothing all day then a goodnight text? she seemed to be upset cause i usually call every morning and mid day to say have a nice day. So then on facebook me and her are commenting about my bike and how she loves it, and im gonna take her on it when weather is better. So i put a comment girls dig the bike. So she freaks out and gets all mad and deletes me from facebook. So a day or 2 goes by we chat on text a bit and she is calming down. So i wanna know why she is freaking on me about this comment, so i ask one of her friends on facebook, her friend tells me nothing. So my girl finds out i asked this girl about whats going on and she tells me she hates this girl and she is a bitch, so basically she broke up with me and is furious now with me. I have sent her flowers and a im sorry note to her house she should get them by monday Ive made a mistake. She said i have hurt her, and i would never do that on purpose. How do i get her back or what to do next?
robaday Posted March 8, 2014 Posted March 8, 2014 You havent done anything wrong mate so do nothing. Just sit back and dont contact her. Shes going through stuff at the moment and taking it out on you, and by the looks of it sabotaging the relationship at the same time. If you story is true, she had majorly overreacted over something insignificant, perhaps because she is stressed out over something else. I wouldnt have contacted another person though, it looks like a lack of respect toward your gf/ex but hey, you wanted to find out what was going on. Truth is you dont want to set a precedent of over compensating when she has these outbursts - shell get used to it and continue to act like this. Id not contact her and wait for things to cool down 1
Author Jonson Posted March 8, 2014 Author Posted March 8, 2014 Yeah the bike comment thing was about her anyways. i dont think I should have asked her so called friend what was wrong that was a mistake. We have had so many good times and spent alot of time together, then she sorta backs off but when i give her space she complains about me not calling?
married2school Posted March 8, 2014 Posted March 8, 2014 Girls can be confusing. I should know, I am one. But I don't think she has any right to be this angry. I would assume it's because she's just going through something right now. But depending on what type of person she is, I don't know if she is just saying she wants space when she really wants you to be there, or if she just genuinely wants space. Based on what you said, I don't think she has any right to be that angry. I wouldn't be worried that it is directly anything you've done. I wouldn't have necessarily asked her friend, but at the same time, I think it shows you care about knowing if she's okay. I would give her some time. But also don't let yourself be treated badly. There's been times where I haven't been super nice to my boyfriend, but I've always tried my best to apologize and let him know it's nothing he's done. Maybe some relationships can operate without that, but I'm not really sure how they do. If I was you, I would want to expect that she can admit when she's overreacted. You shouldn't ever have to feel like you're apologizing for your feelings being hurt or your reaction to her being angry.
Author Jonson Posted March 8, 2014 Author Posted March 8, 2014 Yeah i think she is a bit outa order taking it out on me, she has been very kind and loving the whole time since we been going out. Lots of gifts holding my hand cuddling very loving. Then she trouble with her kid and its all gone off it seems. When i dont call she wonders why I dont? she seemed upset cause i did not call until bedtime the other night. I was trying not to be need. Im a succesfull person have good life money job etc no hang ups. She said on valenetines day she had never been so happy and no one has ever been so romanatic with her. I spoiled her for 2 days. She said to me one time she dont wanna ever lose me. Im going away soon for a few weeks and she cant go i asked her to. But is business for me, i think she is worried about me going and this could be why she is acting weird.
Gaeta Posted March 8, 2014 Posted March 8, 2014 Your other thread and now this? Sounds like you are dating someone immature. You're walking on eggshells all the time. She's a bad communicator and she sheds all her daily frustration on you. She asks for space but complain when you do just that, now she's a drama queen on FB. Well, this is the woman you have picked for yourself. Hope you enjoy all the drama.
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