Loempia741 Posted March 8, 2014 Posted March 8, 2014 My long story short: It's been 8 months post break-up. I tried winning her back to no avail. She said she still cares deeply, feels safe with me but lost her feelings. Still she wanted to remain friends. But I said no for now. 1 Month ago I started no contact. I told her why and said I need some time apart to regain myself. She wasn't really happy about it but she agreed and said she would leave me alone. All went well until yesterday when she started talking to me on facebook. I answered calmly, a little small talk, just a couple of sentences and then she stopped answering. I don't feel I'm an emotional wreck again, but today I felt myself trying to guess what here motive to start talking to me could have been.. And why suddenly stop talking? Strange creatures these women.. ps: English is not my first language
Survivor12 Posted March 8, 2014 Posted March 8, 2014 It isn't up to her. If you want NC, you have to cut off all means of contact. She wouldn't be able to contact you on FB if you block her. 2
Author Loempia741 Posted March 8, 2014 Author Posted March 8, 2014 I don't need to delete her to get over her. I understand why people need this, but I'm capable of doing it without deleting her. I'm just wondering what goes on in her mind. Maybe people have had this before. Isn't this why we are here, to share experiences?
lolablue17 Posted March 8, 2014 Posted March 8, 2014 After you asked her to leave you alone, and she agreed, If she broke NC, started to chat and then stop answering without saying "bye" or something than SHE CAN'T BE TRUSTED! She's bad news, insensitive, evil girl. You just dont do that to your EX if dont hate him or something.
Simon Phoenix Posted March 8, 2014 Posted March 8, 2014 Only you can break your No Contact. No Contact is not a two-person thing, it's an individual thing. And if you are on here wondering about her motivations from a brief conversation, you aren't ready to talk to her. 2
Author Loempia741 Posted March 8, 2014 Author Posted March 8, 2014 Only you can break your No Contact. No Contact is not a two-person thing, it's an individual thing. And if you are on here wondering about her motivations from a brief conversation, you aren't ready to talk to her. I'd find it rather immature to just start ignoring people you didn't have a bad break-up with. Thats why I told her about no contact and thats why I answered her message. This whole, "once you break no contact you are back to day 1", honestly, is bull****. I worked a lot on myself during this period of no contact and this brief contact isn't setting me back. If she is just going to say hey and after a brief conversation stay silence, then more power to me. I feel I am the mature one here and she is the confused one. No contact is for you, and I think, unless she cheated on you or treated you badly there is no sense in just plain ignoring her. If I feel she's sending me breadcrumbs again I will tell her to back off. But ignoring her is just acting immature (in my eyes not hers) It's true that I'm wondering what goes on in her head, but since when is this bad? The notion that accepting it's over is equal to shutting off your toughts is just stupid I think.. To me thinking about why and how is coping with a break-up instead of totally shutting yourself off.
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