NewNewNew Posted March 8, 2014 Posted March 8, 2014 Hi Guys, Something quite strange happened to me. My girlfriend of more than 3 years dumped me last week. At first it was very hard to cope with that loss. I have tried to make contact and I did. We were talking like for a week or so and we would proably meet each other on wednesday. I think I truly love / loved her but what amuses me is I feel quite well now. I don't really feel that I need to reconcile with her. I could imagine life without her. I don't even like so hard to meet her next week! Not sure whether this is any form of short term coping mechanism or something but now I'm a little bit confused whether I want her back in my life or not..
Musing Posted March 8, 2014 Posted March 8, 2014 At this point of the BU it is crucial you keep an eye on your emotions. I'm not you, we all handle things differently so I can't tell you if this is normal behavior or not. I felt something similar...I was calm for 3 weeks before my emotions kicked in. Sometimes, we feel almost a dumpee's version of relief for not having to hang onto a relationship anymore, or denial without really recognizing it as such. There are occasionally thoughts or feelings that the ex will return and after we've been without them for awhile we realize they aren't coming back and we lost someone special. I'm not saying you'll go through this, just going off what I've read and experienced myself. But hey, if you're feeling decent then I'd hold onto this feeling for as long as possible. Are you currently speaking with your ex or have you cut off all contact? 1
iDrumKing Posted March 8, 2014 Posted March 8, 2014 I was like you the 3 days following the BU. I didn't feel anything. But afterwards it hit me like a brick wall. Emotions buzzing out of control. That was a little over a month ago. But as stated before, keep an eye out for your emotions. 1 week is still incredibly early to say you're over an ex ESPECIALLY after a 3 year RS. You know what, you might actually be over it. But IMO I think you're still in shock and that it will hit you later on. When it does, be sure you grieve and accept the pain. Also come and post something. We're all in this together
Author NewNewNew Posted March 8, 2014 Author Posted March 8, 2014 (edited) There possibly could be a trap of having so much time now and you start planning how many things you will do but in the end.. most of them will never happen. So one could probably project a false, happy image of the future without the other person. Now I'm strong but still don't know what will happen. I will meet with her. I think she wants me back. Edited March 8, 2014 by NewNewNew
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