Solo-guy Posted March 8, 2014 Posted March 8, 2014 Hello, I'm Solo-guy and I'm new to this forum. I'm 20 years old and my ex is 5 years younger than me. Prepare for a long story and a short relationship, haha. I met this girl from school half a year ago, we started as friends and in December we started dating. In the months before I had been figuring out if she was adult enough for me and she actually was. So in December we went pretty seriously and begin February she wanted to put it officially on Facebook so everyone would know about our serious relationship. Two days ago she already broke up with me two ours after my aunt passed way (she knew). It was not me, it was her. She said she had her problems at home and she got troubles with herself. And the fact that she only sees me at weekends (in the weekends she would sleep over). She said she needed space and that it was not the right time now for our relationship. She cried the whole time and said she loves me and that she is still crazy about me. But she was confused with her feelings and problems at home. But I don't understand: WHY WOULD SHE BREAK UP IF SHE STILL LOVES ME AND IS CRAZY ABOUT ME? WHY DIDN'T SHE ASK FOR MY SUPPORT IF SHE HAS TROUBLES WITH HERSELF AND AT HOME? I would give her all my support and all my love to help her! Even her best friend told me that she said the same thing to her, also that she misses me. Her best friend also doesn't understand why she broke up. We were like 3 months seriously and the last month we put it on facebook, I know it was short, just 3 months. But the months before then we were friends, we both had a big crush on each other. So the last half year and especially the last 3 months we were really really close. You must know that I'm normally more like a Casanova guy. I'm not so seriously about relationships and girls, I've got good looks and getting girls for me is not a problem. (Sorry if I sound to arrogant now!) But for the first time in my life from all the girls I have been dating or seeing, I was really serious about this relationship. I'm really in love with her (never felt it this way before) and don't understand why she broke up. Last week she slept almost every night at my home and we had a great and loving time, she even said that I am her perfect love and that she is madly in love with me. Said that she is looking forward to the summer so we can spend more time together. Said also I'm the only one who makes her smile even when she doesn't want to and that she wants to stay with me. Everything went great and that's why I've never seen this coming. I'm really really confused and upset, (also a thing I never was). One of the main reasons I'm upset is that she dumped me before my aunt passed away. I'm really disappointed she left me when I really needed her support and love. Also that makes the death of my aunt harder to process. Few weeks ago her step granddad passed away and I was there the whole time for her. She told me we can still talk first and be friends. I said to her I might want to be friends but do not want contact with her now for some time, but if she really needed me when she has problems at home I'll be there for her as a friend first. Does anyone have a clue why she broke up? I really don't understand! It is driving me crazy! Ciao ciao, Solo
somedude81 Posted March 8, 2014 Posted March 8, 2014 You're 20 and were dating a girl who is 15?....... From your writing style I'm guessing you don't live in the United States, because if you did, dating such a young girl is illegal. Anyways, if you can easily get girls, then try getting somebody who is completely through puberty. OK? 2
bubbaganoosh Posted March 8, 2014 Posted March 8, 2014 You're 20 and were dating a girl who is 15?....... From your writing style I'm guessing you don't live in the United States, because if you did, dating such a young girl is illegal. Anyways, if you can easily get girls, then try getting somebody who is completely through puberty. OK? I was going to say the same thing. My God man your luck that your not in jail. 1
Keenly Posted March 8, 2014 Posted March 8, 2014 If you guys are going to focus on age... instead of pointing out how its illegal where you live, why not say something that's actually helpful. For example... a 15 year old girl has NO clue what she wants, how to get it, or what the hell she is doing. She's a time bomb of irrational behavior and nonsensical actions. 2
somedude81 Posted March 8, 2014 Posted March 8, 2014 If you guys are going to focus on age... instead of pointing out how its illegal where you live, why not say something that's actually helpful. For example... a 15 year old girl has NO clue what she wants, how to get it, or what the hell she is doing. She's a time bomb of irrational behavior and nonsensical actions. That's why I suggest he find a girl who is through puberty. 15 and 20 are on completely different levels of maturity.
Author Solo-guy Posted March 8, 2014 Author Posted March 8, 2014 That's why I suggest he find a girl who is through puberty. 15 and 20 are on completely different levels of maturity. I agree, that's why I've been waiting and figuring out if she was mature enough. Girls behave mostly 2 years older than their ages. She has also been through a lot, that made her sound and behave more adult.
Keenly Posted March 8, 2014 Posted March 8, 2014 That's why I suggest he find a girl who is through puberty. 15 and 20 are on completely different levels of maturity. 20 year old girls are still fully capable of behaving like 15 year old girls too. I can think of several in my life that still do . 1
Author Solo-guy Posted March 8, 2014 Author Posted March 8, 2014 20 year old girls are still fully capable of behaving like 15 year old girls too. I can think of several in my life that still do . I agree with you!
bubbaganoosh Posted March 8, 2014 Posted March 8, 2014 Girls behave mostly 2 years older than their ages. She has also been through a lot, that made her sound and behave more adult. So that would make her maturity level 17 years old. She's still too young. She's still a kid and has a great deal of growing up to do. 1
TAV Posted March 8, 2014 Posted March 8, 2014 She might be mature for her age but it is still very early in life to make a real commitment. Maybe what you had was perfect and she is really crazy about you but that might be the problem. She may see her friends/age mates having fun, going out, flirting etc. etc. You said you spend almost the whole week before together, almost as if you were living together. Not many girls her age would be ready for that, also not here in Holland. You work or study and she is still in school and will be till she is 18 at least. I have children close to her age and I would not be happy if they got so serious with someone so soon, especially when that man is older and therefore in a different phase in his life. I would be afraid they'd be missing out on an important and relatively carefree time in their life. 2
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