Jadedbyluv Posted March 8, 2014 Posted March 8, 2014 So it's been a few months since I have been on any dates. I was more focused on other things and decided to take a break. Back in February I joined an online dating website with no real expectations because I haven't had luck in the last. I thought I would give it another go. Well so far there have been a few guys I've talked to and only two have asked to actually go on a date. The first one we actually video chatted first and decided to meet two days later. He was telling me how excited he was to meet then the day of the date comes around and complete silence. Needless to say, we didn't meet for a date. Two days later he texted saying he was sorry for being distant but he had a lot going on work and it was his main focus. And he missed me. Yeah, I believe that. I've been down that path before with an ex and I see right through that. So last night, I was supposed to go out with the second guy. He seemed to have a lot going for him, and he was a decent guy. Two hours before the date, he texted me asking if I was free today too and I told him no because I have plans. Then he asked me what I was up to a little while after that, and I told him I was getting ready. So I'm starting to think he was going to cancel. The next question asked if I smoked pot so I was wondering where the convo was going. I told him no but he told me he was smoking right then. It was all weird but I said ok well see you in like an hour at so and so. It took him a bit to respond but he said actually can we meet later, I'm really high right now. I was shocked and speechless. I told him no bc I had plans this morning and wasn't planning on staying out too late. Then he asked when I was free again so we could plan something. Is this the norm anymore in online dating? I have tried meeting guys by joining a rec league or through friends but I seem to have no luck. I am tired of meeting so many flaky guys through online dating.
acrosstheuniverse Posted March 8, 2014 Posted March 8, 2014 It happens so often that it's not unusual, but you get used to picking up on things and writing somebody off straight away for red flags like that. You will have to get through many jerks before you find someone worth sticking it out with, unless you get lucky. But there are good, genuine men on there too. 2
babycakees Posted March 8, 2014 Posted March 8, 2014 Drop them both. The first guy didn't have the common courtesy to even send you a text to cancel the date. Shows how much he respects other people. This second guy is complete loser. He wants to sit around and get high instead of go out with you? NEXT! 1
LostConfused123 Posted March 8, 2014 Posted March 8, 2014 Yeah, I'm online dating too. LOTS of flakes. But nice guys too. Just didn't click for him or me or both. I'm just taking it as it comes cause you never know. My prince could be checking out my profile right now 1
Author Jadedbyluv Posted March 9, 2014 Author Posted March 9, 2014 Drop them both. The first guy didn't have the common courtesy to even send you a text to cancel the date. Shows how much he respects other people. This second guy is complete loser. He wants to sit around and get high instead of go out with you? NEXT! I have no desire to go out with either of them. But it makes me wonder when guys are out there like this and they feel like those traits are desirable. Do they treat all people like this? It boggles my mind.
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