London_girl_1985 Posted March 8, 2014 Posted March 8, 2014 Even though I was essentially dumped because the long distance got too much (and deep down I think he didn't want to commit) I still feel terribly guilty about the idea of being with other men. I feel like I am undermining my feelings for him or something. Even though I would give almost ANYTHING for us to be together. Does anyone else get this?!
Saurren Posted March 8, 2014 Posted March 8, 2014 If you feel guilty dating other men, that just means you are not ready to date yet. Don't rush into another relationship. Just take as long as you need to not feel guilty dating again. 1
Musing Posted March 8, 2014 Posted March 8, 2014 I can relate sometimes. Especially the feelings about undermining the relationship. There are times that I think about flirting, dating, loving or sleeping with someone else feeling as if I am either betraying my ex or that he will come back one day and I'll be with someone else. But these are all pretty normal. Think of it as emotional residue from your relationship. It eventually dries up and disappears. Pretty soon you will get use to your life without him or his feelings/opinions/judgements and without your former relationship. And without even really realizing it, your eye may catch someone and you won't really think twice about your ex. Just give a little time to yourself and to assess your feelings and heal. You'll be golden
Mr Scorpio Posted March 10, 2014 Posted March 10, 2014 When you feel guilty, remind yourself that thinking about being with other men is part of letting go. Letting go is part of your healing. Also, be careful that it isn't so much that you feel guilty, but rather that you don't want to think about other men because you don't want to let go, and in doing so admit that the relationship is over with.
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