joel Posted January 24, 2005 Posted January 24, 2005 lets say u now this gal right and u made small talk to her about school her courses, what she taking, her hobbies, what she likes.....got to now her basically, when in that time should i start flirting and what kind of flirting do gals like. smiling is good i now, so what flirting is considered ok in a girls eye and flatterring . well of course nothing touchy or complimenting her breast and azz-as in 5th wheel the girls there seem to love it. hmm also when should i flirt-after nowing her quite well or in the beginning is ok.
kanga Posted January 24, 2005 Posted January 24, 2005 you should be flirting already. just don't get creepy about it.
tanbark813 Posted January 24, 2005 Posted January 24, 2005 Watch Blind Date, 5th Wheel, Elimidate, etc, etc.. Study the people on there very carefully and how they interact with each other. Then, do exactly the opposite.
brandon Posted January 25, 2005 Posted January 25, 2005 ladies, where would you draw the line between flirty / creepy?
katie79 Posted January 25, 2005 Posted January 25, 2005 flirting is nice. it would get *creepy* if the guy kept staring directly at me as if he were lookign right through me, and never *ever* blinked! LOL! I've had that before, they look sorta nuts and probably are! LOL!
quankanne Posted January 25, 2005 Posted January 25, 2005 creepy is when a person tries TOO hard to flirt. I've always been attracted to someone who flexes their wit, as long as it wasn't sardonic or cutting.
LucreziaBorgia Posted January 25, 2005 Posted January 25, 2005 Flirting success ENTIRELY depends on the chemistry between two people - no flirting technique will be a sure fire thing for all women. There are guys I've been around who flirted one way, and it bombed - but with a guy who I had a different attraction to - the exact same thing worked. I guess there are some staple things to be avoided: 1. No racist or sexist comments/jokes - I had a guy telling 'black jokes' once, not realizing I am mixed race. 2. No touchee of the 'privates' in the flirt stage. Erotic comes in what you want touched, not what is being groped. 3. Stupid drunk is never sexy. Neither is stupid high. Period. 4. Stealing someone else's act is dumb. Be yourself, not an attempt at someone famous or a famous 'type'. 5. No lame, fake sounding compliments - if its a tired line, it won't work no matter what your delivery is. 6. No power flirting with a bunch of ladies around each other. No woman wants the guy who wants everyone around him. It makes us think you are flirting for no other reason than the fact that you bombed with the last chick. 7. No bragging - I don't care about your car, your money, your house, your yatch, or your resume or whatever. In a flirt situation, I just want to know that you want me. 8. No mismatch of your confidence and your flirting technique. If you aren't very confident, don't pretend to be. If you are overly confident, don't fake 'shy'. You either come off as pathetic or a predator. 9. Closing time = go home if you haven't had luck. Hitting on girls on the way out shows that you had no luck early in the evening and no woman wants to feel like the "last ditch effort". For me personally: I'm a fairly dominant woman. Ok, I admit it - I can be downright intimidating. The most successful flirt situations have come when a secure, dominant man has moved in and taken control - and made it clear in no uncertain terms what he wanted without being fake, corny, or crass. That won't work for all women though. Just match your technique to the basic type you see in the woman and you should be ok.
alphamale Posted January 25, 2005 Posted January 25, 2005 Originally posted by LucreziaBorgia The most successful flirt situations have come when a secure, dominant man has moved in and taken control - and made it clear in no uncertain terms what he wanted without being fake, corny, or crass. That won't work for all women though. The above may not work for all women but it will work for most women...
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