Colton Posted March 8, 2014 Posted March 8, 2014 So I just read a thread about closure and it got me thinking. The thing that stuck out to me was said by "Ordinaryday" the op. It was basically that the dumper checks out of the relationship well before the initial day of the BU. I can relate because I noticed a drastic change in my ex's behavior about 3-4 weeks before we broke up. Is this true? Well a little over a year after my BU, I gotta say I think I'm finally in a much better place than even 2 months ago. I think it was a combination of finally realizing my role in the BU and my ex's last irritating and bulls--- breadcrumb, well, two months ago. I think it just took a long time because she was my first real love. I've had a girlfriend who dumped me in high school, and a girl I dumped in my first year of college, but I didn't love either of them. I'm now in a place where I am looking forward to my next relationship (to be clear I'm not trying to find one, nor do I really want one) and my next breakup whenever it may happen. I know that last part kind of sounds weird but I would really like to see if I've learned anything from my last relationship/BU and also from LS. I want to see if I've grown and can keep a clear head and implement all the cumulative advice I've read here. So I guess I want to ask since not every ex acts as mine did, how do you know if your relationship is safe? How do you know you chose the right person if someone can check out and not act as if anything is wrong? And I guess is your first love really the hardest BU you have to endure? Was it for you?
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