Orangecrush55 Posted March 8, 2014 Posted March 8, 2014 Sorry it will be kinda long but I need some pointers. Ive known this girl for over a year now because we used to work together and here in January we started talking back and fourth on facebook and she eventually gave me her number. I had other things going on so we didnt meet up until not too long ago. We have gone out twice and have gone to each others place 3 other times. 1st time we just went to dinner and we ended up staying and talking for like 4 hours until they closed. Hugged and went our own ways. 2nd time after lots of texting back and fourth she invited me over to watch Netflix at her place. The weather was suppose to get bad so I told her we would see. She joked about coming over and staying warm and joked about seeing if I would prove her wrong and actually show. Just kind of flirting back and fourth. She told me I could crash there on the couch since the weather was going to be bad. We ended up staying up watching like 4 movies until like 4:30 am. During this time we cuddled, kissed and eventually had sex. We both passed out on the couch and I left the next morning. 3rd time was the next night and it was kind of the same. We had texted that day and sex was brought up and we just kind of acknowledged that it was kind of unexpected to happen. But that night we ended up doing it all over again. Stayed at her place and left the next day. 4th time. During that day I had asked her if she knew what this was that we were doing and she said "idk". Now I will say she has said things to me prior about how she can be shy when it comes to emotions and is just that way. Anyways she says lets me up and talk about it after she gets off work. This time she comes to my place. She is upfront about not being able to stay the night becuase of work. We end up talking for hours about our childhoods, growing up, tons of things. It seems like its so easy for us to talk, joke and flirt. But we never really got to the topic of what we were doing exactly. We ended up falling asleep and so she stayed. We woke up and she left to hurry and get ready for work. Kissed her goodbye and she left. (We didnt have sex) 5th time. We met up for dinner after she got out of work and we laughed and flirted quite a bit more. I will say that this whole time us doing these dates she initiates a lot of the contact. Grabbing my arm and hands. Putting her legs in my lap. The first night she ran her fingers through my hair while we laid there and so on... Anyways after dinner I walked her to her car hugged and gave her a kiss goodbye. Now that next day she left for California and she has been there since. She gets back in two days and I should point out that all these dates were back to back days. We have been texting as much as we can but I feel like she is distant somewhat. She still initates contact part of the time and we can hold a good convo. But when we joke about her missing me and stuff she always just says "maybe just a little : ) " and laughs. I asked her again last night if she has any better idea of what this is we are doing and she still says "idk". I just feel like for me if this isnt ever going to become something as much as I like talking to her and its nice to have someone to hang with and pass the time with. I cant do that. But dont want to rush into telling her I cant do this if it isnt something. We are both 23 and she does have a kid. Ive met her before in the time we have known each other and one morning I was still at her place I saw her again. This girl posted something on facebook tonight about how her daughter told her she was going to call her boyfriend and get her into trouble and her status then said "theres only one problem, i dont have a boyfriend so idk who shes talking about lol." Her daughter has to be thinking of me since she saw that I had stayed the night. Ive asked If i could see her when she gets back is "You sure you miss me?" I said "Yea? Why is there some reason why I shouldnt? Why is that so hard to believe." She said : No one ever misses me" Shes had some ****ty boyfriends in the past I know. Any advice guys would be awesome. Its much needed. Thanks
Author Orangecrush55 Posted March 8, 2014 Author Posted March 8, 2014 Bump. Some advice would be extremely helpful.
truth_seeker Posted March 8, 2014 Posted March 8, 2014 She's 23, has a kid, rushed into having sex with you. She is young, dumb and immature with baggage. Find a girl who is more stable. You got sex. Be grateful you didn't knock her up. Let her go.
Author Orangecrush55 Posted March 8, 2014 Author Posted March 8, 2014 Thanks for the input Truth. Its just hard because I felt more of a connection with her in conversation and such much more that I probably ever did with my ex who I was with for 3 years. Im just baffled that she could act how she did and did every single one of the signs that shows a girl is into you all except actually being into you I guess.
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