Friend dumped me on Facebook, didn't communicate

[Sugarkane]

In another thread I posted " Long term friendship gone sour". This guy and I have been friends since school and we're purely platonic. We aren't each others type romantically. Anyway I read his FB message because I was not well when I received it. He said that he was sick and tired of me only contacting me when I had problems and romantic problems. He NEVER mentioned this to me even once! Instead excluded me from events, posted it on Facebook and then deleted me. Plus I was sick to death of contacting him to meet up, only to be rejected for his arrogant older Ahole fiancé. Why can't people just communicate? I'm also sick amd tired of taking the high road only to be friendless, time and time again. It has made me not want to even try anymore.

[preraph]

Sounds like it's time to go your separate ways. At least for now. He doesn't sound patient enough to be your platonic friend and doesn't sound interested in hearing your problems.

[darkmoon]

try new subjects with new people, your social life may improve

Edited March 8, 2014 by darkmoon

[Sugarkane]

But if you do something that annoys someone, why not just say so? That would be the logical thing to do. I feel like excluding everyone from him, just like he has done to me. He is a hypocrite when he rejects me for his Ahole fiancé anyway.

[VeronicaRoss]

That was bad. He didn't send an IM but posted a rant against you? Ugh, good riddance.

 

Most people rarely will tell you when you've done something to upset them. They just disappear or partially withdraw. It's easier if you're replaceable (not that close). Few people are very good at giving or taking criticism so most people don't try.

 

How friends treat their other friends -- it's how they'll treat you too. He's getting married, he'll probably shed a lot of things including friends that don't jibe with his couple vibe and you don't get along with the fiance. A natural shedding in a way. But always painful!