someonespecial Posted March 7, 2014 Posted March 7, 2014 I was married for 16 years and have been separated a while now. I have been talking to and texting a guy I met two weeks ago and we are going on our first date this weekend. We seem to have a lot in common. I am scared though because I haven't been on a date in so long. I don't want to do the wrong thing and possibly scare him off and I don't want to be so eager that I come across as desperate or a sex fiend. Any advise on what to wear or do? I have never really dated before. My ex an I were high school sweat hearts.
ctxinfl Posted March 7, 2014 Posted March 7, 2014 Your situation is close to what I went through. I was with my ex for 17 years. We didn't date in high school, though close to it. I remember my first date after my divorce ended. It was scary and exciting at the same time. As a guy, I can't give much advice on what to wear other than let the setting dictate. If it's a casual coffee date or dinner date then dress casual. I'd say look nice, though don't dress in a matter that is contradictory to your normal style. If that makes sense. As for the date, it's cliche, though be you. Stay engaged in the conversation. Avoid simple "yes" and "no" answers and questions. You want to find out about the person, so you must ask questions; just don't make it sound like an interview. I usually ask about their job, if they like what they, what they wanted to do, movies, interests, etc. It's all cliche, though you can ask and stay engaged in a way to make it fun. Put your cell phone on silent and put it away where you won't be tempted to look at it. Your cell phone shouldn't be seen unless you need to check up on your kids. There is nothing more annoying than having a date constantly checking their phone. Above all, remember to have fun. You'll be nervous. He'll be nervous. There will be awkward moments. So don't read too much in to things and forgive him for stumbling over words. 1
Author someonespecial Posted March 7, 2014 Author Posted March 7, 2014 Thanks guys. I appreciate the response. I am a little scared we haven't left much to talk about during our date as we have been talking for about two weeks and I already know a lot about him. Hopefully I can come up with something. We haven't really went into details about interests. I just really like him. I dont want to screw it up.
Author someonespecial Posted March 7, 2014 Author Posted March 7, 2014 One more question, not that I plan on sleeping with him right away, because I don't, how long should you date before having sex. I see alot of threads on here where people have sex on the 2nd or third date and never hear from the person again. I don't want that to happen to me. How do you know?
SoonMyFriend Posted March 7, 2014 Posted March 7, 2014 I am in a similar boat to you. Was high school sweethearts with my ex, and after 10 years we split up in 2012. I am still figuring out dating. My best advice - take everything as slow as you need to, and don't make anyone rush you. Dating can be fun, it can be awful but try to enjoy the ride As far as first date - wear something that makes you feel confident. Pick an outfit you know you love, and will feel comfortable in. Not something you're going to be fussing with or thinking about too much. Anything to help keep you relaxed!
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