Nanners Posted March 7, 2014 Posted March 7, 2014 Long story short girl I've known for a few years gets out of a 2 year relationship. About week after her breakup she chases me. I ignored her for a month until a friend told me to give her a chance. Started talking to her and we have been talking non stop for almost two months now. In that two months we have went on several dates. We hold hands, hug, cuddle, play fight, etc. The typical couple stuff. A few weeks ago I asked her if it was okay to call her my girlfriend. She said yes and when I asked her how she viewed me she got extremely nervous and restless. Thinking I blind sided her with that question I told her I was patient guy and would wait for her. After that she went back to normal. Tomorrow I'm taking her to a nice restaurant and then I'm going to surprise her by taking her to an arcade, she likes that kind of stuff. After that I had planned to get the first kiss while I was dropping her off. However, Last night I was hanging with my best friend and one of her friend. Her friend mentioned the question I asked her a few weeks ago. I asked her what she had heard, big mistake on my part. She said this, "She told me that shes not ready for a relationship, but she said she really likes you" After she said that I was really confused. We talk non stop, go on dates (she even considers them dates), hold hands, hug, and cuddle. The only thing we haven't done is kiss. How doesn't she consider that a relationship? The big question I'm asking everyone should I go ahead with the kiss tomorrow? I should add the last two dates she has gave me strong signals that she wanted a kiss. When I would drop her off she would bite her lower lip, tilt her head, and lean really close to me. The only reason I haven't kissed her is because the last two dates her friends would kill the mood by driving by flashing their bright lights at us. I'm just really nervous that I will lean in for a kiss and shes going to deny me because shes not ready for a relationship and after that it would get awkward.
mammasita Posted March 7, 2014 Posted March 7, 2014 2 months out of a 2 year relationship is NOWHERE near ready to be in another relationship. She might be ready for a little make out fun but that might be all.
d0nnivain Posted March 7, 2014 Posted March 7, 2014 A kiss is just a kiss, not a relationship. If the vibes are there, go for it but don't force anything.
Author Nanners Posted March 7, 2014 Author Posted March 7, 2014 2 months out of a 2 year relationship is NOWHERE near ready to be in another relationship. She might be ready for a little make out fun but that might be all. Its been about three months for her breakup. Shes been seeing me for almost two months. I guess I should also throw out there that I found out the two year relationship she was in was her first relationship shes ever had. So there's another hurdle I have to cross.
Keenly Posted March 7, 2014 Posted March 7, 2014 You are probably a rebound. She will probably Leave you the second she finds some one she really wants to be in a relationship with. Exact same situation happened to me, and blindsided me. I was pretty heartbroken. I didn't know what a rebound was at the time.
Author Nanners Posted March 7, 2014 Author Posted March 7, 2014 I just looked up signs of a rebound. The only signs that matches is she has a fear of commitment. Which I just assumed that it was too soon to ask her that. And the other sign is shes never introduced me to her parents. Shes met mine a few times. Never really thought about it Kind of depressing actually. I hope this isn't the case. Do you see what you wrote? Does it make sense to you? 3 months after her breakup AND she's been seeing you for 2 of those 3 months. She is nowhere ready for a relationship, sorry that is the truth. She's hanging out with you for comfort and fun. Who knows how long that will last but just be aware of the possibility. Secondly, I'm not sure how old you are, but if you've been seeing her for 2 months and haven't kissed yet, I'm assuming you're younger. Typically the first kiss should happen within the first few dates. The first three dates I never had the opportunity. The first date one of her friends was waiting for her at her house so when I dropped her off her friend was watching us. The second and the third date ended with me dropping her off and her parents were sitting on the porch watching us. After that we went on a few double dates and again I didn't want to kiss her in front of her friends. The last two we were alone and I was going to go for it but like I said her friends would kill the mood by driving by flashing their bright lights at us.
HappyLove Posted March 7, 2014 Posted March 7, 2014 Well on your next date you should kiss her. If she shy's away then you need to move on anyway. Don't let her use you.
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