JellyBeen Posted March 7, 2014 Posted March 7, 2014 So long story short: 1. Guy asking a girl to be her girlfriend 2. Saying doesn't want to go public; calling girl friend "his friend" when hanging out with his friends for 5 years What's your thought? Red Flags?
mr_dave Posted March 7, 2014 Posted March 7, 2014 That throws up more red flags than a Chinese military parade! 6
soccerrprp Posted March 7, 2014 Posted March 7, 2014 (edited) Frankly, NONE of the reasons are GOOD ones. If you've been dating for 5-years and he can't call you gf in public and you've allowed this to happen for so long, it's a red flag to me. Edited March 7, 2014 by soccerrprp
thegreatesthumphrey Posted March 7, 2014 Posted March 7, 2014 My bf of one year acts similar. Seems as if he will still be that way in 5 years as well.
soccerrprp Posted March 7, 2014 Posted March 7, 2014 Two problems I see: 1. He's embarrassed to call her his girlfriend around his friend which implies insecurity. 2. She allows him to treat her like this which implies insecurity. If it's not culturally motivated, then there are some underlying issues. If I was hiding my so called "girlfriend" for five years, that would mean I don't anyone to know I'm dating her because she might be "below" standards. Good point Alex. It could be that he is embarrassed or not fully confident in the way others may see his relationship with her. But, depending on how often they are seen together, you would think that people would pick up on the fact that they are dating, no?
thegreatesthumphrey Posted March 7, 2014 Posted March 7, 2014 maybe they are off and on and he hasnt told those friends they got back together a while ago. Is he controlling? He might like to be viewed as single and be playing the field to assert his manliness and keep you following behind him.
Leigh 87 Posted March 7, 2014 Posted March 7, 2014 There is NO logical explanation. A man who is truly in love would never keep a girl secret unless he was from a particular culture where his family refused to approve of his relationship. That is rare. 1
Keenly Posted March 7, 2014 Posted March 7, 2014 I came in here expecting answer the question when relating to maybe a few months, with my answer ready to be sometimes guys get kind of embarrassed when they announce to their friends they are in a relationship and then a month later it falls apart. 5 years though.... I got nothing. 3
Author JellyBeen Posted March 8, 2014 Author Posted March 8, 2014 Here's the twist(or not!): 1.That guy met the girl's parents and the girl met his siblings. However still even the girl introduced him to her parents as BF, he told his siblings that they're friends! 2. The girl constantly has guys hitting on her (which I really can't understand:sick:) So I doubt if the guy would be embarrassed to show her to his friends! 3. Guy told the girl she deserves a better guy than him (is that really the reason or he just doesn't like her all that much??)
veggirl Posted March 8, 2014 Posted March 8, 2014 Who the fk would put up with that? Wow that chick needs therapy like, FIVE YEARS AGO! Pathetic. whats the POINT of a secret relationship? it's obviously going nowhere. guy is prob banging/dating others. girl has massive self esteem issues. 1
babycakees Posted March 8, 2014 Posted March 8, 2014 Simple. He's keeping his options open. And she's a fool.
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