lastking Posted March 7, 2014 Posted March 7, 2014 I was with Ex Girlfriend for 8 and half years. We broke up last year and initially I made all the stupid mistakes of begging and all that. Anyways I went NC but she is calling me more often nowadays and we usually talk for an hour or so. She will call me asking for advice regarding what Masters course she should take; asking me whether I can take her nephews to Six Flags; Whether I can help her move. I am trying to read in between the lines to see if she wants to come back. What step should I take next...advise. Thanks!!
lvroflife Posted March 7, 2014 Posted March 7, 2014 You obviously want her back. The problem is that she hasn't said the magic words while contacting you. "I want to work it out". So your next step is to plant a seed to see where she is... Say something to the effect of "I was watching XYZ and it reminded me of the time we [something you two did that was cute and romantic]… see how she responds 1
Never Again Posted March 7, 2014 Posted March 7, 2014 I'd actually recommend you fade away to NC some more. Probing to see where she's at will seem manipulative. She'll know what you're up to and feel pressured, and you'll either kill the budding interest (if there is any) or just freak her out. You're not together, so her choices are her own. I'd gently remind her of that. You're not responsible for her Masters program or her nephews. Don't be a dick, but don't act like her crutch. If she wants you, she'll give chase when she feels you pulling away. If not, she won't. Either way, answer given. 2
Chi townD Posted March 7, 2014 Posted March 7, 2014 I was with Ex Girlfriend for 8 and half years. We broke up last year and initially I made all the stupid mistakes of begging and all that. Anyways I went NC but she is calling me more often nowadays and we usually talk for an hour or so. She will call me asking for advice regarding what Masters course she should take; asking me whether I can take her nephews to Six Flags; Whether I can help her move. I am trying to read in between the lines to see if she wants to come back. What step should I take next...advise. Thanks!! Looks to me that everytime she contacts you is when she wants something. 1
ConfusedHumanBeing Posted March 7, 2014 Posted March 7, 2014 I was with Ex Girlfriaend for 8 and half years. We broke up lastot year and initially I made all the stupid mistakes of begging and all that. Anyways I went NC but she is calling me more often nowadays and we usually talk for an hour or so. She will call me asking for advice regarding what Masters course she should take; asking me whether I can take her nephews to Six Flags; Whether I can help her move. I am trying to read in between the lines to see if she wants to come back. What step should I take next...advise. Thanks!! You are hardcore in the friendzone and mildly being taken advantage of. If she wanted to be with you, she would. Quit talking to her!! 1
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