rachelberry Posted March 6, 2014 Posted March 6, 2014 Ive dated four guys, and in every relationship, the guy breaks up with me for another girl. The first two times I was okay because it wasnt really serious, but the third time killed me. We were dating for over ninemonthsand he started ignoring me for weeks and was constantly staring at a girl, lets call her birdie. When we talked about it, he got mad at me. Randomly he kissed me and said he loved me, not her. But the next day, he broke since middle school came in and helped me move on, afterall it was my first love. with me on our 9 month anniversary. I was crushed finding out they dated the day after. My best friend came and helped me move ofrom him, but in the process we fell for each other. We had a smooth and very romantic relationship until Birdie told him she loved him. Ever since then, he grew more distant from me and attached himselff to her. Just like the first guy, he promised he would never leave me for her. But he did, on our 5 month anniversary. I honestly dont know what hurts more, the fact my love isnt in my life anymore, seeing the two of them together, or the fact guys always choose the prettier and better girl. Im so insecure about myself. My bestfriend/ex wants to be friends, but I miss him being in my life and him as my boyfriend. Is it wrong I want him back? Should I be friends with him again?
FrostBlaze Posted March 6, 2014 Posted March 6, 2014 (edited) Don't, GO NC. Why would you want to still be his friend? Answer me that, do you think it's possible? You still care for him and will get hurt,BAD. The only reason YOU would want to still be friends with him is to get him back, wich won't happen LIKELY, and even if it did. WHY would you take him back since he left you so easy? He would do it again . My advice is to respect yourself and choose wisely, by not taking LESS then what YOU WANT. You don't have to be spiteful or hate, just tell him "friends, no thanks, i got enough of those", walk away, if anything he might respect ya more for not sucking up. IF YOU truly value him and want to be friends, you can be YEARS LATER.. not now since you still care for him and it will surely hurt you, don't go through this. PS: Can you describe your relationships? IF they were so okay why would they leave just like that... How insecure are you? Clingy? Moody? Idk, tell us stuff. Edited March 6, 2014 by FrostBlaze
Author rachelberry Posted March 6, 2014 Author Posted March 6, 2014 Well the first one was more of a casual relationship, we hugged and hung out but not too serious. No big deal. The second one was a closer one, and my friends would always say "he says youre the best girlfriend ever!" But I could tell it wasnt gonna work. Now the third one was very lovey dovey. We lived next door (amazing back then, sucks now) and we hung out all the time. And we were very alike, video chat all the time, and it really was a lovey dovey romantic relationship. Then Birdie came in the picture and boom, he dumped me out of nowhere. No one close to him knew what was going on, and now he hates me. The fourth relationship lasted exactly 5 months. We're 15, but have been best friends since we were 11. He came in and cheered me up after my last ex left me, and said I deserved better. In almost two months later, we started acting like a couple and finally he asked me out. I was hesistant, but he convinced me. In five months, we did clubs together, spoke literally from when we woke up till one of us falls asleep, he took me on my first date, and we really trusted each other. When Birdie came into the picture, I told my friend and she told him and we talked about it. He understood my feelings and made me feel better. Two months later, he left me. Now today he was so close to her Shes skinnier than me with long black curly hair and is like perfect. Neither of us wear make up. Im not girly, but she is. Im louder and weirder, while shes a "popular girl" who everybody loves. I seriously have a good twenty friends, and basically now two people who talk to me on a daily basis
FrostBlaze Posted March 6, 2014 Posted March 6, 2014 So this BIRDIE lady is the same girl in both cases, took both of your boyfriend's away ^^. She took your first, you got hooked up with your bestfriend, then she took him too, obviously she has broken up with your first Ex by then, this is so weird ^^. Oh well, teenaga drama. Anyway my point stands, don't be his friend, show him you can do without, he doesn't deserve you for leaving you like that. Go have fun, date other boys, you will get over it easy . Also you seem kinda clingy, maybe? Talking all day with the guy, you might get a fella boored by BEING there all the time. You have to keep it fresh, make him miss you a little, need other activities and priorities, don't make him no 1. THE bolded part still stands as my final suggestion. And stop being insecure, it's a unatractive trait, to both genders.
newmoon Posted March 7, 2014 Posted March 7, 2014 why don't you try making friends with her? instead of being envious and wondering why she is stealing guys away, or what she might have that you don't, get to know her better. you might pick up some 'tricks' she has about getting a boyfriend and keeping him, and the more you interact with her the less you will see her as 'perfect.'
aussietigerwolf Posted March 7, 2014 Posted March 7, 2014 considering your teenagers then this is why she's doing it... She's jealous... She's skinnier and prettier but guys still choose you. So she uses her body to pinch your bf's. When your older then you'll win out against her as the guys you want will never choose someone like her.
Author rachelberry Posted March 7, 2014 Author Posted March 7, 2014 Thank you guys so much for the advice
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