LazyTee Posted March 6, 2014 Posted March 6, 2014 Here's my short story: Known my EX-GF for 3 years, together for 1. She broke up with me due to 3 main reasons: - I do not listen (in general, not only her but people around me) - I get annoying sometimes because I talk to much - I was jealous of a guy She kept on chilling with a guy that we live with at the accommodation which I got really jealous about because I felt as though she had this connection with him. She re-assured me nothing wasn't going to happen after the break up and one of the main reasons were she wanted to be single and have fun. Two days later I caught her sleeping with that guy I was jealous about and she explained that she lost feelings for me a month ago and had feelings for him 2 weeks ago. I know I don't have the right to be jealous but hey it still hurt. About a week later I tried moving on and just not think about her which is so hard but I did manage. I then started flirting with a girl, I thought I liked her from when we were texting she's at my university and decided to help me, she came over yesterday and we had sex. After the sex, I felt nothing for her, in fact I wanted her to leave, she just became very annoying idk why. Its funny because I thought I wouldn't be this guy and if I had sex I would feel like I would be over my ex or even just flirting with another girl. WHY do I still care when I do not want to?!
iDrumKing Posted March 6, 2014 Posted March 6, 2014 You gotta start NC. This whole sex scheme after a BU doesn't work for a reason. You're not gonna get over an ex in 1-2 weeks. Trust me... I've tried. Just go about your way.
David87 Posted March 6, 2014 Posted March 6, 2014 You still care because there's no on/off button for your feelings. In time you wont care that much.
Author LazyTee Posted March 6, 2014 Author Posted March 6, 2014 But why do I feel this way? I know and have accepted the fact that its over, I know that I have to move on and been doing so, I know all this and have accepted this reality. But why can't my heart accept it?
iDrumKing Posted March 6, 2014 Posted March 6, 2014 But why do I feel this way? I know and have accepted the fact that its over, I know that I have to move on and been doing so, I know all this and have accepted this reality. But why can't my heart accept it? Emotions are still raw man. I'm 1.5 months NC and how I felt after my BU compared to now has made leaps and bounds of progress, but by no means am I done. This is a process man, and you're gonna have to allow your feelings to process day by day.
lvroflife Posted March 6, 2014 Posted March 6, 2014 The saying "get under someone to get over someone" is not true... You hurt yourself more if you try to have sex with someone else.. You probably almost or wanted to cry when you were doing it, too! How about focusing on your jealousy issues, and your listening skills so you avoid that next time around!! If you do not fix those you will be on this forum again after the next girl!! 1
Author LazyTee Posted March 6, 2014 Author Posted March 6, 2014 Im not a jealous guy, Out of our 1 year relationship I was only jealous of one person, the one she slept with. I just felt a threatening vibe from him, call it sixth sense you will. I felt the connection she had with him. That was why i was jealous and for my listening skills, yes that does need to be improved upon.
butiloveyou Posted March 6, 2014 Posted March 6, 2014 I don't mean to sound like a broken record but the only thing that is gonna make you feel better is time. My children's father and I just split almost four months ago... there is still a knot in my throat I cant swallow and constant tears. My friends and my children have been an enormous comfort. if I was you, I would just try to surround myself with people that love you.... or get on this website it helps a little bit. Eventually every storm runs out of rain, just keep pushing.
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