lvroflife Posted March 6, 2014 Posted March 6, 2014 I am struggling this morning and I need help guys!! My mind is wandering!! Please help!! Why do we have to go through this? When does it end?
David87 Posted March 6, 2014 Posted March 6, 2014 It ends when you find another girl to love, simple as that.
LazyTee Posted March 6, 2014 Posted March 6, 2014 Fact: It will never end. Even if you get into another relationship you will always think about your ex in one way or another throughout your life. Time just makes you forget your feelings, your emotions. NC is a trick to make you move on with hope. Mornings are tough for me, but what I like doing is making breakfast or try do something, watch tv or play a movie, hell call a friend!
iDrumKing Posted March 6, 2014 Posted March 6, 2014 I'm right there with ya man. But hey look at it this way. You woke up today... You have your health, your family, and your friends. When you step back and look at what you have as oppose to what you don't have, your mood shifts. I'm not saying you or I don't have the right to be sad, because we do. But in the grand scheme of things, it makes us stronger. 1
iDrumKing Posted March 6, 2014 Posted March 6, 2014 NC is a trick to make you move on with hope. Nope. NC is not a trick. It is a process. 1
Author lvroflife Posted March 6, 2014 Author Posted March 6, 2014 I have no motivtion all of a sudden!! Last week I was up and at em!! Today I do not want to move! yes NC is not a trick!! And I do have my health, fam, and friends, and God! I have been praying for this pain to go away and for him to take control and steer me! And everytime I pray it works, I smile and feel good, and feel his power!! I am very thankful for this forum too! 1
a708 Posted March 6, 2014 Posted March 6, 2014 Just one of those days bud. I feel the same. Very up and down. Not even each day.. could be a few hours of feeling good then bam! terrible. As much as it hurts.. Im sure their not thinking about it. You gotta remember that. The one thing ive realized over the last couple of days is.. Shes not feeling sh*tty so why should i? Also ive started thinking about everything logically whenever i feel down. In my situation, logically it wouldnt have lasted. I guess you just gotta come to a realisation point man. Everyone gets there.. just takes different amounts of time. I definitely think its a good thing posting on here. Even if no one replies or reads it. Its just the feeling of getting your thoughts down. 1
iDrumKing Posted March 6, 2014 Posted March 6, 2014 Yep. Don't fight for someone who won't fight for you
a708 Posted March 6, 2014 Posted March 6, 2014 This thread is stuck in my head.. When you're lying there thinking i cant move/ dont want to do anything. Just remember.. before you even met this girl you were a confident lad who managed to get this girl. What has happened? Are you gonna let ONE girl in this huge planet make you feel like this? Her loss dude.. plenty more girls out there. I know you dont want anyone else.. but you probably want her more because you cant have her. ----- Reading your story briefly.. its natural you're gonna feel lost and confused. but thats because your routine has been broken. Im not having a go.. because ive been in exactly the same position. I just think collectively.. guys on here have to snap out of it. For me.. im 21. When i say that to myself i think, "wtf am i upset for? this is an opportunity and not problem" Keep going man! 2
Jethro Posted March 6, 2014 Posted March 6, 2014 I'm just gonna quote a line from one of my favorite songs ever, Bob Segers' Traveling Man: "Sometimes at night, I see their faces, I feel the traces they left on my soul... and those are the memories that make me a wealthy soul." Enjoy the memories. They are yours forever and no one can take them away. They make you a better person and for that you should be very happy. Now pick yourself up, dust yourself off and go forward!
KevinC Posted March 6, 2014 Posted March 6, 2014 Its just one of those days friend. For me its nights when im in bed alone thant make me feel this way. We just have to get thru this one and hope tomorrow will be a little better. We just have to keep going.
johnson_j Posted March 6, 2014 Posted March 6, 2014 Hang in there guys. It's tough to remember but there are plenty of fish in the sea. With my most recent ex, I'll admit I'm quite impressed I was able to meet her out with a group of girls, escalate it to intimacy, get very close. Even if it ended it was still quite a feat and I know I can do it again, and do it better. And so can YOU
LauBee20 Posted March 6, 2014 Posted March 6, 2014 I am struggling this morning and I need help guys!! My mind is wandering!! Please help!! Why do we have to go through this? When does it end? I feel the worst in the morning. It's like a flurry of emotions that my subconscious was brewing all night as I slept. I don't know when it ends, I'm struggling too dealing with the very very recent break up and him moving out in an hour. I have thrown my focus into work but event has its struggles. Trying to stay strong, and hopefully you can too. 2
paperwings Posted March 6, 2014 Posted March 6, 2014 Mornings are the worst. There are songs about this. Oh my... I do this to myself. I miss you most in the morning Most every morning I wake up thinking I could call I could come visit I could come running We could relive it But when I think of all that we've been through Going back to you Seems such a foolish thing to do I hope you know That even if I don't I wanted to All those words You said at the ending Were pretty revealing And I can't forget them All those ways We missed at connecting Despite all our trying It always came back to What I couldn't give you So when I think of starting up again Or trying to be friends It seems impossible to do I hope you know That even if we can't I wanted to Who knows why Two people perfectly aligned Should ever have to find themselves apart I'll never understand my heart I miss you Most in the morning Most every morning I wake up crying 1
Author lvroflife Posted March 6, 2014 Author Posted March 6, 2014 The last week of January 2014 plays in my head. And it has been the worst week of my life! January: Monday I get a letter from my landlord, she is not renewing my lease because she wants to rent to family. Wednesday had to give my dog away because my new work schedule has me out all day and I wouldn't have time for him. Friday my ex breaks up with out the blue, literally 10 minutes after saying she loves me and to come over!! Something has to give!!!
johnson_j Posted March 6, 2014 Posted March 6, 2014 Hang in there man! You'll make it. Had a similar week in 2008 (June): - Girlfriend left for an ex - Lost job Within two months girl had come back and I dumped her for a better person, got a much better job which was my dream job, and got the car of my dreams. So hang in there, a positive change could be right around the corner. 1
franklingrad7 Posted March 6, 2014 Posted March 6, 2014 (edited) Hey everyone. Going through a rough time here too. Day 4 of no contact for me. I want to text her so badly. She was hands down the best girl I've ever dated as she made me a better person and challenged me in so many ways. She said I was too quiet. We only dated for 2 months but I've always been someone who opens up gradually and I just never got the chance to. She still had feelings for me when I talked to her last but said this was for the best as we both cried and hugged each other :/ Glad there are people out there that understand. Edited March 6, 2014 by franklingrad7
Mr.Pine Posted March 6, 2014 Posted March 6, 2014 The last week of January 2014 plays in my head. And it has been the worst week of my life! January: Monday I get a letter from my landlord, she is not renewing my lease because she wants to rent to family. Wednesday had to give my dog away because my new work schedule has me out all day and I wouldn't have time for him. Friday my ex breaks up with out the blue, literally 10 minutes after saying she loves me and to come over!! Something has to give!!! Lvro, Since misery absolutely loves company, especially on this site, let me tell you how the month of February, 2014, went for me... February 12th - Laid off February 21st - break up with the gf AND give up my cat we bought together. February 22nd - apartment gone February 23rd - living on my brother's couch Any questions?
LauBee20 Posted March 6, 2014 Posted March 6, 2014 Here is my timeline: Feb 18-19th Went away for a romantic getaway. Got massages, had some great laughs and talks, etc Feb 21st- Had a fight over the fact that he refused to change his address on his license (it was still his exes house) for car insurance and he leaves for the day Feb 22nd- He comes back, our fight blows over Feb 23- Spent the day wandering the city and having brunch Feb 24th- He comes home from work and tells me he is moving out and he wants to be alone and never get married March 1st- He moved out... UGH- still wondering what the F happened.
Mr.Pine Posted March 6, 2014 Posted March 6, 2014 Here is my timeline: Feb 18-19th Went away for a romantic getaway. Got massages, had some great laughs and talks, etc Feb 21st- Had a fight over the fact that he refused to change his address on his license (it was still his exes house) for car insurance and he leaves for the day Feb 22nd- He comes back, our fight blows over Feb 23- Spent the day wandering the city and having brunch Feb 24th- He comes home from work and tells me he is moving out and he wants to be alone and never get married March 1st- He moved out... UGH- still wondering what the F happened. Feb 21st- Had a fight over the fact that he refused to change his address on his license (it was still his exes house) for car insurance and he leaves for the day THIS is what the F happened. There was a reason he refused to change his address. No use in pushing or prodding or arguing about it. You pushed, he pushed back. You put baby in a corner. He bolted. Be glad HE moved out and didn't kick YOU out. Plus, you still have a job and didn't lose any pets, so you're in the black.
LauBee20 Posted March 6, 2014 Posted March 6, 2014 THIS is what the F happened. There was a reason he refused to change his address. No use in pushing or prodding or arguing about it. You pushed, he pushed back. You put baby in a corner. He bolted. Be glad HE moved out and didn't kick YOU out. Plus, you still have a job and didn't lose any pets, so you're in the black. Well it was my house. And yes, my dog is here. His reason was car insurance is too high in the city, I get it for less wight his address...really?!?
Author lvroflife Posted March 6, 2014 Author Posted March 6, 2014 Its funny how one day is blissful the next day they leave. Makes you feel it was all a lie. To many people are afraid to communicate and be open. SMH 1
LauBee20 Posted March 6, 2014 Posted March 6, 2014 Its funny how one day is blissful the next day they leave. Makes you feel it was all a lie. To many people are afraid to communicate and be open. SMH You couldn't be more right. I do feel it was all a lie, like he was pretending and I was ignorant to it all. Sigh... As for communication, we never got that right either. He didn't like being told what to do. It always had to be his idea.
Mr.Pine Posted March 6, 2014 Posted March 6, 2014 Well it was my house. And yes, my dog is here. His reason was car insurance is too high in the city, I get it for less wight his address...really?!? He wasn't ready to let go. It was probably one of the last vestiges of his relationship with her. Regardless, he wasn't completely over her. If he has any stuff still at your house, box that crap up, leave it outside your door. Next Step: Text him this, and only this: "Your stuff is on my porch. Please pick it up. Thanks." Last Step: Go NC and stay NC. It works. You won't be doing it to get him back. You'll be doing it because he's an immature douche-nozzle who is not capable of a mature relationship.
LauBee20 Posted March 6, 2014 Posted March 6, 2014 He wasn't ready to let go. It was probably one of the last vestiges of his relationship with her. Regardless, he wasn't completely over her. If he has any stuff still at your house, box that crap up, leave it outside your door. Next Step: Text him this, and only this: "Your stuff is on my porch. Please pick it up. Thanks." Last Step: Go NC and stay NC. It works. You won't be doing it to get him back. You'll be doing it because he's an immature douche-nozzle who is not capable of a mature relationship. The relationship with the ex was totally over. It ended 4 years ago and I even spoke to her, she wasn't an issue, but it just annoyed me so much that he refused to change it...I was like OK, this makes me uncomfortable, and all he could say was, well my rates are high as is, if I switch to the city, they will be even higher...mind you, he was living in my house saving so much money to begin with.
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