aboycalledmalice Posted March 6, 2014 Posted March 6, 2014 hello, i'm 16 and i recently lost my virginity to my girlfriend that i've been dating for a year... she lost it to me too, which is part of the problem... i never thought we would be a long term thing anyway, but us sleeping together really did change things for her at least... i have my eye on another girl, who is more my type except she's blonde, and the one i'm dating now is brunette but she's plain compared to this other girl, in fact i feel invisible when i'm with her... so what do you think guys? it just feels like a dead end, i don't really know if i should end it with her because i do feel a bit guilty having took her virginity even if she initiated it... also she's quite well liked not popular though at our school, so it could be social suicide to boot, the other girl doesn't go to our school though, which is a good thing so i don't feel she is suffocating me with her presence like my current gf does and my previous gf before.
iDrumKing Posted March 6, 2014 Posted March 6, 2014 My honest advice? Stop dating. Dude you're so young and should be experiencing new things. You have all the time in the world to date. You're only a teen for so long. Besides your evaluation of dating is kinda whack right now. So do yourself a favor and stop dating your girl, because it's obvious you don't care about her. And work on yourself. 2
Lernaean_Hydra Posted March 6, 2014 Posted March 6, 2014 How? By just biting the bullet and doing it. I was hurt when I got semi-broken up with by the guy who took my virginity but I would've been even more hurt if he had strung me along further when he was no longer invested in the relationship. I got over it eventually and it wasn't the end of the world. It's unfortunate that another girl you have a little crush on has diminished your interest in your girlfriend, but such is life, especially for a 16 year old boy. Just end it, don't be mean about it, but don't BS her either. It's likely she'll be upset, but don't fall into a trap or feel guilted into staying with her because you don't want to hurt her more. That, to me, would be the most cruel thing to do. When you do it, I'd suggest you do it in person and not via Facebook or text or something. That's just gross and cowardly.
Author aboycalledmalice Posted March 6, 2014 Author Posted March 6, 2014 My honest advice? Stop dating. Dude you're so young and should be experiencing new things.. that's what i think, but i just don't wanna be the bad guy that crushes all her hopes of us... i even tried starting petty arguments so she might dump me instead but nothing sets her off.
David87 Posted March 6, 2014 Posted March 6, 2014 The first heartbreak is the worst especially when you took her virginity to. But I agree stop dating this girl because you give her false hope. 2
iDrumKing Posted March 6, 2014 Posted March 6, 2014 that's what i think, but i just don't wanna be the bad guy that crushes all her hopes of us... i even tried starting petty arguments so she might dump me instead but nothing sets her off. That's definitely not the way to go man. You need to find some time out of the day to sit her down. Tell her the truth that you're not ready to commit, which is what the issue is here. After that you both go your own ways. Look you're in there years of establishing who you are. No need to carry the baggage of a relationship, at least not right now. 2
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