I_Like_To_Golf Posted March 6, 2014 Posted March 6, 2014 Background: Relationship was 10 months (ended in June 2013, I'm 23 she's 21) and the break up kind of "blind sided" me due to the fact I was choosing to ignore the red flags such as her being cold, distancing herself, etc. the last 2 weeks of the relationship (what hurt the most was when we were walking in the store one day and she rejected my hand). We didn't have any arguments at all, and we seemed to always enjoy each other's company and the family liked me (besides her father's girlfriend). I gave her everything she wanted (material wise) and I thought she was sent down from heaven. First 3 month after the break up, she mind shafted me with bread crumbs, being intimate when we seen each other, and acting like we were back in the honey moon phase until I had enough of the mind games and decided to go NC on her (returned absolutely everything that belonged to her at my apartment, blocked on all social media, etc.) The last 6 months have been pure NC until tonight (luckily I was never tested with bread crumbs during these 6 months), when I was talking to a buddy of mine that still works with her and he told me (without me asking) that she is dating someone else (and they started dating shortly after the relationship ended). So it looks like my parents were right when they said she's probably messing around with someone else so it would be best for me to move on. There was definitely a small sting in my heart and it definitely made my curiosity sky rocket, but within seconds I talked myself out of checking up on her life and realized that I'm fine with this because deep down I knew it was going to happen sooner or later because she's a really attractive woman with a great personality. Having that false hope being completely destroyed is kind of depressing, but I can now say I'm happy it is gone. Now I believe I can actually move on, instead of faking it. I'm using this forum as a way to vent and express my emotions since the people I would normally talk to are asleep and don't feel like this is important enough to bother them haha. But yea, I'm a big supporter of NC, I think it fits all situations for a dumpee.
somecamel Posted March 6, 2014 Posted March 6, 2014 Background: Relationship was 10 months (ended in June 2013, I'm 23 she's 21) and the break up kind of "blind sided" me due to the fact I was choosing to ignore the red flags such as her being cold, distancing herself, etc. the last 2 weeks of the relationship (what hurt the most was when we were walking in the store one day and she rejected my hand). We didn't have any arguments at all, and we seemed to always enjoy each other's company and the family liked me (besides her father's girlfriend). I gave her everything she wanted (material wise) and I thought she was sent down from heaven. First 3 month after the break up, she mind shafted me with bread crumbs, being intimate when we seen each other, and acting like we were back in the honey moon phase until I had enough of the mind games and decided to go NC on her (returned absolutely everything that belonged to her at my apartment, blocked on all social media, etc.) The last 6 months have been pure NC until tonight (luckily I was never tested with bread crumbs during these 6 months), when I was talking to a buddy of mine that still works with her and he told me (without me asking) that she is dating someone else (and they started dating shortly after the relationship ended). So it looks like my parents were right when they said she's probably messing around with someone else so it would be best for me to move on. There was definitely a small sting in my heart and it definitely made my curiosity sky rocket, but within seconds I talked myself out of checking up on her life and realized that I'm fine with this because deep down I knew it was going to happen sooner or later because she's a really attractive woman with a great personality. Having that false hope being completely destroyed is kind of depressing, but I can now say I'm happy it is gone. Now I believe I can actually move on, instead of faking it. I'm using this forum as a way to vent and express my emotions since the people I would normally talk to are asleep and don't feel like this is important enough to bother them haha. But yea, I'm a big supporter of NC, I think it fits all situations for a dumpee. False hope is all it is, False, it lulls you into a false sense of security and will always end up hurting you. Well done on your resolve to not check up on her, sounds like you're beginning to move on:) 2
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