laramercie Posted March 5, 2014 Posted March 5, 2014 (edited) Hi everyone, I really need your help. I met a guy that i really like - he's 23 and i'm 19, we randomly met in a night club like a month and a half ago, i was standing alone waiting for my friend and he started dancing with me, then we talked and i liked him from the beginning, so i decided to stay clubbing with him all night, while my friend went home. Then he took my phone number and was sending me lots of nice texts, we decided to meet and went out together and it was great fun. When we were dancing together i felt this sexual tension and all, we were hugging and touching but he didn't kiss me. Then suddenly he said he wasn't feeling good (we drunk a lot) and had to go home. After that he kept on sending texts etc but then he stopped and so i thought he didn't like me that much. We didn't talk for like a week or two and one evening i was bored so i asked him what's up and he said he's going for a gig with his friends and asked me to join him, so i went there and it was really good, we were talking a lot, found out we really have so much in common, like literally all our interests in music,movies, lifestyle etc are the same, plus even some creepy stuff like that he was born at the same hour as i was, and that he's the same zodiac sign So on that night after a gig i went to sleep at his place and we had sex (which was amazing btw), but it wasn't that obvious, i sort of had to seduce him, but then he initiated it, however afterwards he said he didn't suspect it would happen. In the morning we didn't kiss or discuss what happened anymore, we talked and i went home. Then he texted me that it was a really great night (also mentioned sex) and that it's a pity i'm leaving - i was moving to another country for a month. Now next week i'm going back home and while i was here we talked on facebook couple of times, but every time i initiated the conversation, however he said we're gonna go out together when i'm back. So guys please help - what should i think? When we're together he acts as if he likes me, but not as much as for example other guys that fancied me before. On the other hand also his friends acted as if they knew he liked me, leaving us alone, making hints to sex etc. I'm really confused. Edited March 5, 2014 by laramercie
Conners Posted March 5, 2014 Posted March 5, 2014 Be careful of guys you meet in night clubs seriously..! I have met a lot of guys when I used to go clubbing every weekend when I was 18-19 and I probably only ever followed through with a date after that night a few times. Nothing ever progressed from them. I've found that guys that constantly go clubbing at 22 and onwards aren't really after anything serious either, they just go out to drink and hope they can get some sex.
OhThatGirl Posted March 6, 2014 Posted March 6, 2014 Stop initiating conversations with him. If he picks up where you left off, he's probably interested. If he doesn't, he's not. I'm afraid that because YOU initiated sex, YOU are initiating contact and sex is a big topic he may just see it as "I'm not that interested but she's doing all the work and she gives me sex" kind of situation. If that's what you're after, ok. But if you want a romantic relationship of more than sex you're going to have to give him a chance to show you he wants that too. Ps. Please don't ever ever ever leave your friends to hang out with a guy you just met at a club. This is a terrible idea and easily leads to trouble. If he likes you enough he will go out of his way to see you again when the timing is right. 1
melell Posted March 6, 2014 Posted March 6, 2014 I agree with above. If he initiates meaningful conversation with you that is a sign he is interested- allow him to do so if he chooses. Keep in mind that even then it will be hard to know what his intentions are. I do, though, think it is completely possible to meet someone in a club and have it lead to something more. I personally am not one to have casual sex, but I have seen many a fling turn into relationship. From what you have said- just go with it, take it slowly, see what happens, and most importantly be mindful of what his intentions are in relation to what your intentions are.
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