monsoon281 Posted March 5, 2014 Share Posted March 5, 2014 So I've read a bunch of articles on how to get over a breakup and I wanted to share something that has helped me. One article I read recommended making a pros vs. cons list of what your ex gave you. The point of this is to put something physically in front of you to read when you feel like placing your ex on a pedistool. My list is below. Good traits: Beautiful Good sense of style Good taste in music Comfortable Good sens of humor Likes traveling Values eating/living healthily Bad traits: Selfish Controlling Emotionally unstable Seeks constant male attention/validation Daddy issues Flabby butt Family problems Abandonment issues Not empathetic Yells / throws fits Impulsive Needy Bad communicator I'm currently five weeks NC, so I also decided to weigh the pros and cons of what I would get if I broke NC, which is below. Remain NC: Space to heal Ignorance is bliss Build self confidence knowing I walked away Contact: Relieve her guilt Apologize to her for not "being fun" the last few months of our relationship Ask her about her life Tell her my life hasn't changed and I'm still in a rough spot Ask her why she sent me breadcrumbs at 2 weeks NC right before valentines day Ask her how her family issues are Risk being hurt by a negative response or no response Link to post Share on other sites
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