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Ladies, how do you feel when you see someone you rejected with a pretty girl?

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Kinda curious. I have a close female friend that's considered hot by many. Friendship has worked well because we find each other physically attractive, but we know we wouldn't make a good couple. She and I are trying to do a little experiment.

 

Two to three wks ago I met an attractive girl at a party through a friend. She and I instantly hit it off. We asked each other a lot of questions, I could tell she also found me attractive. We started dancing. Dancing felt just right, and she made out with me. My buddy said he had never seen her do that in public. I got her number, she seemed eager to see me again. However, she's been cold since then. We finally got to go on one date, but she neither responds to my texts nor contacts me first. Looking back, I am the one who caused her to lose interest completely by seeming needy. I won't talk too much about the stupid things I did, but my actions did make me seem too predictable. I am still kicking myself in the head for it.

 

So, my female friend and I are thinking about doing a little social experiment. I know where the girl that rejected me goes to study often. I am gonna make sure I am seen with my hot platonic female friend. I don't think I'll get a second opportunity or anything, but I just wanna see if it elicits any response. So ladies, how do you feel when you see someone you rejected with an attractive girl?

AndrewJDC Member

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I think you need to grow up.

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Phoe Established Member

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I have rejected 2 guys. I saw one with a girl at a restaurant and was happy that he found someone. That is all.

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pteromom Established Member

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Happy for him that he found someone?

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TAV Established Member

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I think you need to grow up.

 

You took the words right out of my mouth...

J21 Established Member

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This is so petty. Are u in junior high?

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TXGuy Established Member

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I doubt it would work, but I'd be curious to see if it did. If you and your friend have that much free time, give it a try. It's not like the 'social experiment' involves being mean.

 

Don't forget to report back with the results.

kaylan Established Member

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Really Op? You care that much? Take her off the pedestal and move on.

ExpatInItaly Established Member

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I would see right through you, and be glad I didn't go for someone who is so insecure.

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"Hot" (married) woman here. Who has rejected her fair share of men.

 

If i saw a guy I'd rejected with a "hot" woman I would be happy for him. If he was obviously trying to "rub it in" as you are doing I'd think he was a sad person.

RedRobin Established Member

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I'd shrug and think "poor girl" if he was a jerk.

 

If we just didn't work out for other reasons, I'd be happy for him.

Eggplant Established Member

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I always feel guilty rejecting somebody, so if I see them happy with a new girl, I am relieved and happy.

GravityMan Established Member

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Why do you care so much about petty, silly things, OP?

 

You need to learn how to turn the page.

BradJacobs Established Member

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Why do you care so much about petty, silly things, OP?

 

You need to learn how to turn the page.

Because he got rejected and, like most, he's thinking that if he played it differently that she'd still be with him.

 

You should have mirrored when she pulled away. You should have never complimented her. You should have negged. You should have done the push/pull, been more aggressive, keno'd sooner, invaded her space much earlier, established your dominance ...

 

It has nothing to do with personalities or long-term life goals or physical chemistry not being compatible or even complimentary. It's all based on the mechanics.

 

Am I right, OP?

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singlelife Established Member

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This is so petty. Are u in junior high?

 

I'm a guy and I agree. Who has time for this.

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I would be happy for him if I rejected him.....no one should have to go it alone.......jealousy doesnt come into play at all......I dotn understand the concept of jealousy when you dont want to be with that person doesnt make sense to me..i like to see happy couples even when single for me personally i dont get jealous over someone elses happiness especially if it was me that caused unhappiness or rejection persay...deb

joystickd Established Member

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I remember once I thought like this and then I realized how the woman that rejected me really was then I was like "Thank you God for her rejecting me!".

joystickd Established Member

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I would be happy for him if I rejected him.....no one should have to go it alone.......jealousy doesnt come into play at all......I dotn understand the concept of jealousy when you dont want to be with that person doesnt make sense to me..i like to see happy couples even when single for me personally i dont get jealous over someone elses happiness especially if it was me that caused unhappiness or rejection persay...deb

I think things like this come up because men come across game playing women. There are some that will reject you and then when you have someone they want you. If it happens enough then it becomes the thing to do. Men once they do find a woman to be with and other women know it can lead to some crazy experiences sometimes. As I have been told once and found to be true pussy begats pussy.

Zippy2000 Established Member

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Why would she care if she REJECTED you in the first place!

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Versacehottie Established Member

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if she has any residual feelings (guessing she probably does), then it will work. She may be good at hiding it even if it does work but then she will probably hit you up because a competitive drive will come up in her. If she has no feeling left, it won't really have an impact. You know what to do---report back!

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Yall sound college aged so it'll probably work and by work I mean eat her alive (if you're friend is hotter).

topaMAXX Established Member

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Kinda curious. I have a close female friend that's considered hot by many. Friendship has worked well because we find each other physically attractive, but we know we wouldn't make a good couple. She and I are trying to do a little experiment.

 

Two to three wks ago I met an attractive girl at a party through a friend. She and I instantly hit it off. We asked each other a lot of questions, I could tell she also found me attractive. We started dancing. Dancing felt just right, and she made out with me. My buddy said he had never seen her do that in public. I got her number, she seemed eager to see me again. However, she's been cold since then. We finally got to go on one date, but she neither responds to my texts nor contacts me first. Looking back, I am the one who caused her to lose interest completely by seeming needy. I won't talk too much about the stupid things I did, but my actions did make me seem too predictable. I am still kicking myself in the head for it.

 

So, my female friend and I are thinking about doing a little social experiment. I know where the girl that rejected me goes to study often. I am gonna make sure I am seen with my hot platonic female friend. I don't think I'll get a second opportunity or anything, but I just wanna see if it elicits any response. So ladies, how do you feel when you see someone you rejected with an attractive girl?

 

Depends on the girl.

 

This CAN work, for sure.

 

I think it's best that you just move on though.

Noproblem Established Member

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Why do you tell him to grow up, I'm sure most of you have done or wanted to do that at some point in your life.

 

 

Anyway, I'll answer you

 

Yes. I'll be upset

First case ( this is a guy I don't like)

because I'll feel he lied to me and wasn't really that interested in me. That the minute I said no he found another

 

Second case ( I like this guy but I said no anyway)

I'll feel sad and the fact she is pretty makes things more difficult, but after a day or two, I'll wish him happiness ......

 

 

Either case, I'll act like I don't even notice.

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