rweb7 Posted March 5, 2014 Posted March 5, 2014 I'll try and keep this short: So, I've been dating this girl for almost 3 weeks. I'm 19 and she's 18. We've been quite close since we've met each other; we text all the time, talk on the phone every night, see each other every other day, we're very affectionate too. But for the last couple days, she has been very 'quiet'.. It takes her 3-5 hours to text me back (which are then simple and straight to the point), she doesn't wanna talk on the phone, she doesn't seem to eager to see me, etc. - I think she's losing/lost interest. to back-track, we met online and after a few dates she deleted her account (she said she didn't need since she was seeing me), but I kept mine. It wasn't until yesterday that I decided to finally delete my account, but then I noticed she re-activated her account and was almost constantly online. Today, she said she was meeting a friend, but she said she doesn't see her friends anymore or whatever, which got me thinking this is defiantly a red-flag. Anyway, from my experience I think she is losing/lost interest. Should I just call her and end it? Or should I calm down and wait a couple more days? Thanks guys.
LEEVIT2F8 Posted March 5, 2014 Posted March 5, 2014 It all sounds like bad news to me. She has either met someone or has decided she is done with you. Couple schools of thought on this. Just ask her. You seem a little distant lately has something come up I should know about? Or just stop contacting her and date other girls. If she comes back to you try to figure it out then. But at least distract yourself in the mean time as to not drive yourself nuts trying to figure her out.
HeartbrokenNewbie Posted March 5, 2014 Posted March 5, 2014 Maybe she reopened it cos u never closed yours ... It's worth a final chat x
TaserTag Posted March 5, 2014 Posted March 5, 2014 Maybe she thought that you weren't very serious about her, because you didn't deactivate your account when she took hers down initially. If she reactivated to look at your account and then saw that you were still active on a dating site, that might have been a red flag to her. It's hard to really know someone in less than three weeks, I think. If you really like her and want to keep dating, I'd call or send her a message that says that you'd like to delete both of your dating profiles and be exclusive. She can either agree with that or tell you she wants to date other people. Or you can both agree to date and see other people. You're probably both sending mixed signals at this point and just need to have a serious talk about your relationship expectations.
salparadise Posted March 5, 2014 Posted March 5, 2014 we met online and after a few dates she deleted her account (she said she didn't need since she was seeing me), but I kept mine. It wasn't until yesterday that I decided to finally delete my account, but then I noticed she re-activated her account and was almost constantly online. We have no way of knowing if this was the cause of her losing interest (which seems obviously to be the case), or the result of it. But I will say that for most new relationships, when one of the partners remains active on a dating site after the other has turned their off it's likely to be the death knell. New romance is fragile; and trust, respect and some reassurance that you aren't going to get messed over are key ingredients that both are looking for early on. Being featured in the big booty call catalog sends the opposite signal. I've had a few relationships that began that way, and each time the woman turned her's off first, made it a point to tell me, and I immediately followed suit. That's what is expected. The most recent person I dated actually set up a new profile after we went out a few times, and that sent the signal loud and clear that she did not intend to invest with me but was looking for a better deal. Message received... moving on. That's just the way it works whether or not it's the message you intend to deliver.
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