pinar26493 Posted January 24, 2005 Posted January 24, 2005 hello everybody, need your help on an issue.. there's this guy, from gym.the teacher.younger than me.a month ago he started sending me sms messages and 2 weeks ago confessed his passion for me.told me that he's been loosing sleep.it is very obvious that he wants to have physical intimacy.additionally keeps staring at me while we're working out I can see that he is on fire.I am on fire too and I want him. 2 days ago he talked to me again,out of the blue, he told me that he wanted me so much, I said OK. I want you too.and I asked him why although he wanted me, he pulled himself back for the last two weeks? he accepted the fact that he pulled back because he didnt want to break my heart..he is confused.he didnt want to come over to my house, have sex and then leave without any relationship, he said that he promised himself that he will not get into any relationships for some time but on the otherside he can't resist my attraction and he is torn in the middle. I said OK you don't have to.I dont just want to be a bite for you, he said neither I.. then I left, he got my message I suppose.although I want him so much, I cannot just have one night stand.above all, I really appreciate his honesty. Is he running away from his emotions? or is he just trying to say that he wants me just for a night? what do you think? love
Merin Posted January 24, 2005 Posted January 24, 2005 IMO it seems pretty clear that while he is physically attracted to you, he doesn't want a relationship.. I think it's easy sometimes to read more into what people are saying (LOL or I should say women often read more into what a guy is saying) then what has actually been said.. Bottomline.. he wants to have sex with you, but he isn't willing to offer anything more.. he knows you're not down for that, so yeah.. he backed off.
LucreziaBorgia Posted January 24, 2005 Posted January 24, 2005 Originally posted by pinar26493 he said that he promised himself that he will not get into any relationships for some time Focus on this. Anything else is a moot point. If you want a relationship, steer clear. If you are content with casual sex with little emotional involvement then go for it. As long as he is keeping that promise to himself and distancing from you then you'll have to know you can't have it both ways.
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