Guys, what is your thought on "once a cheater, always a cheater"?

[krooton25]

It would depend.

If I were talking with the person about past relationships and they opened up about the fact that they had cheated in a past relationship, but learned form that and will never do it again, I might believe them. I would be impressed that they took ownership and responsibility for their actions.

 

If they hid that they had cheated, or admitted to it but blamed it all on the other person, made it seem like they couldn't help themselves or tried to minimize it, I couldn't trust them.

 

While they may say they would never cheat again, I don;t think that they would have learned anything, and there would be a great risk that they could fall back into that behavior again.

My ex admitted everything and said he's going steady and serious with me. a year later, he changed, cheated and left me for an ex girlfriend.

[dichotomy]

As FWW, I think it would be essential to disclose my past to anyone who expressed a desire to get to know me. That said, I expect to remain alone, since as a Christian I would want a Christian partner, and evidently my past disqualifies me.

 

No - only beliefs or perhaps lack of regret and remorse would disqualify you from finding a christian partner. I we all know the regret and remorse you have over what happened and what you believe in.

 

I have dealt with worse in my christian wife and stayed.

Edited May 29, 2014 by dichotomy