Why did my fiancee tell me she doesn't understand my learning disability?

[Broncos38]

I have a learning disability and she has epilepsy. She doesn't help me when I can't think on my own sometimes. Like she opened an account before I did and they accepted her credit union information and not mine at social security office. And now I'm stuck with a stupid payee rep that I can't have my full amount. But I got angry and upset with my fiancee about this and not helping me when I needed it the most. I didn't start walking until I was 2 years old. But speech and language wasn't that great either. I had to repeat 1st grade. I was in special needs through grade school through college. Do you guys would think my fiancee would help me if I asked for it I doubt it. I really hate when I live with that I can't have it yet. It's like my fiancee doesn't care how I feel and I have to wait things out longer than I have to. It's not fair. What am supposed to do I ask her when it's too late. I have no freedom with my money that I have worked into for 10 years. I hate my disability and I asked my fiancee several times what she would do but she doesn't answer me. I told her she should find someone else when I was going through frustration. Maybe we're just two different people with separate disabilities. Like she cares about me from day one.

[Art_Critic]

From my read of your post it seems you aren't asking for help but expecting it, she isn't your Caretaker.. she is your GF/fiancée and future wife.

If you need help then you need to learn to ask at the appropriate time and not expect her to read your mind and be your Mom/Caretaker.

 

Maybe with enough time and asking her enough she will take on some of the responsibility of the items that are affected by your disability.

I also think maybe when you do ask that you are sounding frustrated and blame her for not asking and that can cause resentment in both of you and work in a negative fashion.

 

Should you breakup? that is for you to decide, I would sit down and discuss this with her, use terms that don't blame her and finally.. accept some responsibility for your own disability and try to ask for help more often and at the right times..

 

I hope I read your post right, if I didn't I'm sorry...

[Broncos38]

Well it seems like she has more control over her life than I do. It's like I can't think of everything to her I'm I like a computer. Or am that stupid and irresponsible that I can not manage my money like she can. It's like she don't care how I feel. She doesn't explain or suggested if I wanted an account sooner am I supposed deal with this how pan out for me. I am not saying about break up it's so hard why she doesn't suggested for me to have an account and now I have to til April 3 to have my money before I did. I'm got so upset that I have to deal with this crap all of a sudden.

[EverLastluv]

sit and talk with her .... its not that easy to get in and out of relationships so I would calm down and seek help from someone else, since she is not capable to handle things for you. Good luck.