donelurking Posted March 5, 2014 Posted March 5, 2014 We brokeup in June. We had no contact until mid January and we hung out once and talked for a little bit over the span of a week. She gave me breadcrumbs and as soon as that week ended she went back to her life. We have not spoken since. I think she has a new boyfriend, I do not know as I don't look. I have been told she does, so I'll assume it is true. I can't seem to find a girl who compares to her yet. I don't know how I feel about her anymore. We could never resume a relationship now, its just been too long and too far apart. We are pretty much strangers now. I think I just miss her sometimes because I was so used to her. I don't hurt like I did when we first breakup, but I still do think of her everyday which sucks. I don't really have any happy memories of us. I am still very bitter at her. I would love to curse her out and make her cry, but I know there is no point because it will make me look crazy. My best bet is to just continue living and better my life. One day she will just be a distant memory. I am ready to meet a new girl, move on, or just continue to be on my own like I am now. For all of you still in pain, it gets better with time. 1
Mama1986 Posted March 5, 2014 Posted March 5, 2014 Thank you. I hope it does get better... It has been 2 months for me.
Winter blue Posted March 6, 2014 Posted March 6, 2014 I am 7 months in and I can relate to how you feel. My ex reached out to me in the last few months, numerous times but she never said anything solid, it felt like she was just trying to get back in my life like nothing happened. I, just, can't, let, that, happen. So I kept my silence most of the time. The main reasons you are still thinking about her everyday OP, I think can be the following two: 1. She reached out to you, you responded. That's a set back in your healing journey 2. You haven't met anyone new yet she has. That part makes you bitter, and the emptiness of her left is still there You gotta get out there OP, go socialize, hang out with friends, sign yourself up on some online dating site, stay positive, and be active (work out as much as you like since you got so much free time now). Someone better will come along you gotta have that belief. Even that you are single for now, what a big deal, enjoy it and be happy with yourself first. 1
melell Posted March 6, 2014 Posted March 6, 2014 I am at around 10 months now after 7 years together (I am 26). It has been about 8 months nc. I can honestly say I don't think about them daily anymore, and none of the thoughts upset me at all. I can also honestly say that had I been in contact at any point in the last 6 months they would be on my mind much more. I think there is a lot to be said for the length of unbroken contact. Still though, I had the opportunity to get close with my ex again, they had wanted me back in the first months after the breakup, I didn't take up the offer. I will never know if I should have tried- at least this way you know for sure. But yep 100% it does get easier, everything balances out. At 5 months nc, and 8 months after the break up I did get close to someone else, made me realize how much I have moved on from my ex mentally & emotionally. I really think if it wasn't for the guidance from long time posters here it would have taken much longer.
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