King Bowls Posted March 5, 2014 Posted March 5, 2014 I think I have a crush on my math tutor at school. He tutors in the lab every week. He is a middle aged man with 2 kids and I feel so weird even THINKING about it. But given I think it's weird, how do I deal with it? Every day it makes more and more sense I might be bi, and no one knows that. I think I have a thing for middle aged men (being im only 20) with a go T who have a "manly" voice.
gaius Posted March 5, 2014 Posted March 5, 2014 I used to drift off to sleep daydreaming about my friends mom every night in high school. Nothing weird about it. Let yourself think and fantasize when you want to and often it will get more comfortable over time. And once you're comfortable you could ask him to a movie to thank him for all that tutoring. In just a friendly way until you're sure he might be open to something romantic. 1
Author King Bowls Posted March 5, 2014 Author Posted March 5, 2014 I used to drift off to sleep daydreaming about my friends mom every night in high school. Nothing weird about it. Let yourself think and fantasize when you want to and often it will get more comfortable over time. And once you're comfortable you could ask him to a movie to thank him for all that tutoring. In just a friendly way until you're sure he might be open to something romantic. Could that be pulled off even if he has a wife? That would be something though. His forearms are always shaved and he looks kind of like Brett favre.
gaius Posted March 5, 2014 Posted March 5, 2014 Could that be pulled off even if he has a wife? That would be something though. His forearms are always shaved and he looks kind of like Brett favre. I honestly have no idea if he's gay bi or whatever. If he does have any gay tendencies and is willing to break the rules and cheat on his wife with a student I'm sure he'll jump at the opportunity to hang out with you under the guise of friendship. If he says no, well you can just get used to whackin off to him until the next Brett Farve look alike comes along.
d0nnivain Posted March 5, 2014 Posted March 5, 2014 Take the issue of sexual orientation out of the equation for a second. This man is married You have to respect that. Don't facilitate his breaking his marital vows. Second, this man is in a unique paid position of trust vis a vie you. He is being paid to teach you. Getting romantically involved with you while you are his student is ethically wrong. At the very least do nothing until your professional relationship is over. If you don't he'll lose his job. For now, do nothing. Enjoy the fantasy but do not share. Perhaps it will pass by the time you are both in a position to do something about it, namely not until he is single.
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