Scarecrow24 Posted March 5, 2014 Posted March 5, 2014 My original story: https://www.loveshack.org/forums/breaking-up-reconciliation-coping/breaks-breaking-up/460240-currently-limbo So roughly two weeks ago, after her stringing me along after my friend who she forgot to delete off facebook showed me stuff on her page like they are in a relationship, how happy they are blah blah. So I totally cut her off 2 weeks ago, I haven't told her why, she doesn't deserve to know why in my opinion. But I still get at least one txt a day, she even tried contacting my mother to see if I am ok. The txts are basically along the lines of her needing know that I am ok, and that I am scaring her by not responding. My personal favorite being "If your ignoring me to punish me then its working!!!" the absolute cheek of it. I've had 2 missed calls off her. Where do I go from here? When/if do I respond? And why is she constantly txting me?? Any ideas? I think it could be a mixture of guilt/the idea of me going out of her life all together is scary.
Raena Posted March 5, 2014 Posted March 5, 2014 Don't respond to her. Walk...no scrap that... run... run as fast as you can in the other direction. You said everything you were going to say to her. Don't give her one more moment of your time. She crapped all over the 5 years you two had together. Let her go and move on.
lvroflife Posted March 5, 2014 Posted March 5, 2014 You don't need to do anything but keep focusing on you! Let her do all this crazy stuff!! Now you are seeing the real her!! only respond if she says the magic words!!! MAGIC WORDS: I am sorry I want to work this out and get back to us!! Now you have to think if she does say this do you even want he rback given her behaviors?!!!
Zahara Posted March 5, 2014 Posted March 5, 2014 She's feeling guilty. So, she's trying to alleviate that guilt by pushing you to make contact and make nice with her. She'll then feel like you're okay with her and that will help her feel like the good guy. Do not respond. Disappear. 2
Smthn_Like_Olivia Posted March 5, 2014 Posted March 5, 2014 Ditto what everyone else said. She seems selfish and self-absorbed to me. She claims to be confused while pursuing another relationship and putting you on the backburner. Now she wants to keep contact and pretend her actions didn't have a serious impact on you? She made her bed, now let her lie in it.
Chi townD Posted March 5, 2014 Posted March 5, 2014 Yep! she did you wrong and she knows it. It's eating her up inside and she needs you to ease that guilt. You wrote in your other thread that you thought that she had GIGS. That would be a NO. She was lying and cheating on you. If she's having issues then she needs to bring it to her new boyfriend because she's not your problem anymore. Stay NC. Sooner or later they'll stop. But, the funny thing is, if she was THAT concerned, well..... she knows where you live. Has she knocked on your door to see if you're okay? NOPE!! She knows where you work out. Has she waited outside the gym to catch you? NOPE!!! See, that would require a certain degree of actually giving a sh*t to do that on her part.
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