Yamuski Posted March 4, 2014 Posted March 4, 2014 I've been seeing a girl for 3weeks which I met online. Her profile at the time I had met her was private pic's so I didnt know what she looked liked till we swapped numbers. As I thought we were getting on really well together I told her that I had taken my down, and she never said anything about it! Now shes up dated her profile and now has pic's on it! Should I be worried or what?? Any advice will be welcomed, as I'm really new to the correct way of dating as my past ex's just happened from meeting for the first time.
d0nnivain Posted March 4, 2014 Posted March 4, 2014 Normal is a loaded word. It's not unheard of for people to remain active on OLD even after meeting someone. As a general rule of thumb, the profiles don't come down & you aren't exclusive until you have both talked about it & agreed to it. 3 weeks in eth OLD world is fast. 2
J21 Posted March 4, 2014 Posted March 4, 2014 Unless she specifies otherwise, you gotta kinda be opened to the idea she *might* be multi-dating. It's OLD and only been 3 weeks, so don't get too attached or worked up if she is. The fact that she has a pic now and never mentioned anything when you said you took yours down, might not be the best thing--but it could have also been updated a while ago and she might not be checking. Politely ask her about it on the next date. In the grand scheme of things, 3 weeks isn't a long time, but if you dont wanna date a multi dater, at least you'll have your answer. Personally for me, multi-dating is too much work. I'm more of a traditional 1 at a time guy. I know there are disadvantages to this, but it's my preference and I'll know within the first date whether we have chemistry or not.
Author Yamuski Posted March 4, 2014 Author Posted March 4, 2014 Hey J21, See I'm like you.. I'm the type that will date someone until it doesn't work out then I'll go back to square one again! I don't see the point in multi dating. I know 3 weeks isnt alot, but think the connection since we started texting that night straight till sat night there, and if we didnt text she would fone me.. but now thats all changed in the last few days. Whats the term OLD you's are using? lol
babycakees Posted March 4, 2014 Posted March 4, 2014 Hey J21, See I'm like you.. I'm the type that will date someone until it doesn't work out then I'll go back to square one again! I don't see the point in multi dating. I know 3 weeks isnt alot, but think the connection since we started texting that night straight till sat night there, and if we didnt text she would fone me.. but now thats all changed in the last few days. Whats the term OLD you's are using? lol I am the same way! I don't think I could even get away with trying to juggle more than one guy at a time. I don't like it if a guy is juggling multiple women, so why should I do that to someone? Multi-dating is stressful
J21 Posted March 5, 2014 Posted March 5, 2014 Hey J21, See I'm like you.. I'm the type that will date someone until it doesn't work out then I'll go back to square one again! I don't see the point in multi dating. I know 3 weeks isnt alot, but think the connection since we started texting that night straight till sat night there, and if we didnt text she would fone me.. but now thats all changed in the last few days. Whats the term OLD you's are using? lol OLD = online dating. People multi date to keep their options opened. It's all a preference thing really, whatever works best for the individual. Yeah I met someone recently from OLD too, we've messaged each other back and forth for like 3 weeks before we actually met 1.5 weeks ago. I had a good time and I think she did too, we're meeting again this Saturday. I'm a pretty forthright guy. We were talking about OLD, and I remember mentioning something along the lines of "Oh no, a couple of people messaged me here and there, but you're the only person I've been messaging back and forth with" and she responded with "Yeah I've replied to a few messages, but you're the only one I actually met. Most of the messages I just stopped responding" or something like that. I am hoping nothing changed, but who knows. OLD can be a hit or miss and prince charming could've messaged her after I met her. I haven't logged onto my OLD account since I met her, I just don't have interest at the moment or find it fun browsing or whatever. I'd just ask her if she is multi dating or not, better to know now than later when you're more attached. Come to think of it, I should probably ask the person I met too if she is a multi dater.
Mo_Do Posted March 5, 2014 Posted March 5, 2014 Never take yours down until she says she took hers down and asks you to do the same. You're a nice guy huh? Nice guys don't make it very far in the online dating world.
Author Yamuski Posted March 5, 2014 Author Posted March 5, 2014 See I had asked her today how she thought things were going with me and her, and she was like ( I lke you too, just dont want to rush things coz of what happened in december) Her granda past back then, plus she told me that she has a stoker from round then too. See a friend of mine said, to message her saying that pof sent me a notice of changes to her profile and that I noticed the pic's??? But at the same time I don't want to say anything that could mess it all up!
Author Yamuski Posted March 5, 2014 Author Posted March 5, 2014 See I did, coz if I like someone I will focus on that. As I dont have interest in anyone else until it sinks! lol I am a nice guy, and I wouldn't hurt a fly...The one thing I ask for in a relationship is don't cheat on me! As it's been done twice before!
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