wholeneworld Posted March 4, 2014 Posted March 4, 2014 Has anyone ever been dumped or dumped someone on the same day they had sex with them? is it something that can just "happen" and how would it feel to be dumped right after sex? pretty as bad as it gets id imagine, at least if someone dumps you and has been backing away for awhile you dont have being imtimate with them the same day to deal with aswell.
Zahara Posted March 4, 2014 Posted March 4, 2014 Has anyone ever been dumped or dumped someone on the same day they had sex with them? is it something that can just "happen" and how would it feel to be dumped right after sex? pretty as bad as it gets id imagine, at least if someone dumps you and has been backing away for awhile you dont have being imtimate with them the same day to deal with aswell. I haven't been dumped or dumped someone after having sex with them. I would imagine it would be a horrible feeling to get dumped after sex. And if I dumped someone after sex, either the sex must have been bad, or I realized I couldn't make an intimate connection with them. Did someone dump you or did you dump someone.
central Posted March 4, 2014 Posted March 4, 2014 I wouldn't sleep with someone if I didn't like them, but if they were awful at sex I'd probably break up with them. However, since first times can be awkward, they'd usually get another chance or two unless they we're beyond hope, IMO. Some people will have sex with you just because they can, and will then look for a new conquest. I don't know what happened in your situation.
Author wholeneworld Posted March 4, 2014 Author Posted March 4, 2014 Was dumped on same day as sex, worst feeling ever, wouldnt wish it on anyone!! really has made it harder for me, my self confidence has taken a hammering, i keep thinking it was me but it wasnt our first time together by any means & she says it had nothing to do with it, its just how it turned out, we were together nearly 6 months.
TaraMaiden Posted March 4, 2014 Posted March 4, 2014 If you both KNOW it's the end, then it's commonly called 'break-up sex'. if one partner doesn't know - then it's a schytty thing to gfo through.
Author wholeneworld Posted March 4, 2014 Author Posted March 4, 2014 If you both KNOW it's the end, then it's commonly called 'break-up sex'. if one partner doesn't know - then it's a schytty thing to gfo through. No i didnt know it was the end, taught everything was good, happy out, she dropped the bombshell on me later that day, i felt awful, if id any idea she was having doubts or tinking of ending it believe me i would have NOT been sleeping with her.
Zahara Posted March 4, 2014 Posted March 4, 2014 No i didnt know it was the end, taught everything was good, happy out, she dropped the bombshell on me later that day, i felt awful, if id any idea she was having doubts or tinking of ending it believe me i would have NOT been sleeping with her. Probably break-up sex or she needed to get some before she dumped you. Not cool. If she knew she was breaking up with, that was a cruel thing to do.
Author wholeneworld Posted March 4, 2014 Author Posted March 4, 2014 Well..... ....Sleeping is fine...... Well ya get what i mean How common is it for someone to be dumped on the same day as sex? is it a sign the dumper is confused and its how things just turned out? if she was firm about her decision i dont think she wud have kept having sex.
TaraMaiden Posted March 4, 2014 Posted March 4, 2014 No. She was just a coward.... She should have told you before having sex with you, but probably couldn't face doing so. Did she do it in person?
Author wholeneworld Posted March 4, 2014 Author Posted March 4, 2014 Probably break-up sex or she needed to get some before she dumped you. Not cool. If she knew she was breaking up with, that was a cruel thing to do. Ya its got me thinking she was never serious about me at all and i was just a rebound or something, very cruel i felt horrrible, i couldnt describe it it was like a double blow.
Author wholeneworld Posted March 4, 2014 Author Posted March 4, 2014 No. She was just a coward.... She should have told you before having sex with you, but probably couldn't face doing so. Did she do it in person? She did to my face ya on the same day, ya i think your right from sounds of it she just couldnt face doing so, In my post break up mess then i accepted her apology and feeded her ego i shouldnt have, i sud have went instant NC, im in NC now for over 40 days.
Zahara Posted March 4, 2014 Posted March 4, 2014 Ya its got me thinking she was never serious about me at all and i was just a rebound or something, very cruel i felt horrrible, i couldnt describe it it was like a double blow. I'm sorry, OP. I'm sure it's an awful feeling. But don't let her flawed character define who you are.
Never Again Posted March 4, 2014 Posted March 4, 2014 I feel you, OP. My ex was having doubts about our relationship for a month because I was depressed (lacked confidence and was asking for more emotional support than I was giving...started getting better before I was dumped, but it was too late). We continued having sex anytime we saw each other, which was only 1-2 times a week at that point. We had sex 2 days before she dumped me, and she initiated it. It hurts, but you learn to not overthink it after awhile.
Author wholeneworld Posted March 4, 2014 Author Posted March 4, 2014 I feel you, OP. My ex was having doubts about our relationship for a month because I was depressed (lacked confidence and was asking for more emotional support than I was giving...started getting better before I was dumped, but it was too late). We continued having sex anytime we saw each other, which was only 1-2 times a week at that point. We had sex 2 days before she dumped me, and she initiated it. It hurts, but you learn to not overthink it after awhile. Ya thats what gets me, she initiated it that morning and the evening before aswell, i think it was goodbye sex for her cause when i think back she was quiet after and looked a bit sad, i asked her was she okay she said she was great and smiled.
blacknoir Posted March 4, 2014 Posted March 4, 2014 Just happened to me a couple of weeks ago. Friday night - great date, came back to her place, had pretty damn good sex. Saturday night - dumped. Feels like I was used. Part of me is wondering if she didn't want the emotional attachment that I was giving her (and that she wasn't ready for) and just wanted FWB. Still sucks.
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