Lostw/out Posted January 24, 2005 Posted January 24, 2005 My Long term girlfriend of 6 years just left me, she said she wanted a committment (engagement) from me and I told her I was not read yet. I do love her and do want to get married, I just have to get my life together. Well she left and I want to get her back....I miss her so much, she means the world to me..Can anyone give me advise how to get her back... She moved back to her family, which is 1200 miles away!!!!!!!!!
utwonderwoman Posted January 24, 2005 Posted January 24, 2005 Get your life in order? You will spend ever day for the rest of your life getting it in order. Wouldn't it be easier to have the woman you love by your side supporting you? If you love her and can you see yourself spending the rest of your life with her. DO IT! Six years is long enough. You either marry that girl or leave her alone so she can find someone else that won't waste so much of her time.
Merin Posted January 24, 2005 Posted January 24, 2005 6 Years and you're still not ready? While only YOU know for certain what is okay for you, and what isn't.. I can't say that she is/was wrong in wanting more from the relationship.. IMO there is never a "perfect time" to get married.. life will always have it's up's and down's, high's and low's.. so I guess it's making the decision to have the person you love the most in the world to share in the good times, and have your back in the not so good times.. Getting her back.. All I can offer here is this.. DON'T try to win her back IF you can't give her what she wants/needs from you out of fear or lonliness.. only try to make things right with her if you're certain it's for the right reasons. Good Luck
moon Posted January 25, 2005 Posted January 25, 2005 It sounds like she wants to be with you. It sounds like you want to be with her. It also sounds like maybe you didn't really know it at the time that she left, but that her absence is killing you. I would start by making a list of goals for yourself. What are you trying to accomplish out of life? Why isn't your life "together"? Is that really your ex's problem or fault? So get to work on getting what you want out of life. But I say reach back out to your ex and tell her that you really miss her and want her back in your life. Point out to her that it's YOU with the problem. You need to set into motion the goals you hope to achieve. Ask her to be patient with you, but why not give her what she wants, if you want it too. Is there really any logic in pushing her away when it's you who can't figure out how to get your life together. Maybe this is going to push you to get your life together. It sounds like the time is now to start getting the things done you need to get done in your personal/professional life. But I say get the ball rolling and call her if that is what you are wanting. If you wait much longer she might do the dreaded and get a new boyfriend and then become "confused." She might lose faith in you. So jump on it.
katie79 Posted January 25, 2005 Posted January 25, 2005 If you really want her back for do it...but realize, the only way to get her back would be with a lifetime commitment. And to be fair, she may be finished with you. Definetly give it a shot ASAP!!! But accept if she has let go completley as well. She may have wanted a commitment, realized you "not being ready" meant you didn't want to marry her, got turned off for a while, and broke away emotionally. Sometimes love can never be retrieved. Go for it anyhow and see what the outcome may be. Don't do it on your next serious gf you consider marrying, it gets lonely after a long while, and eventually no one is available.
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