RlyConfused Posted March 4, 2014 Posted March 4, 2014 (edited) Had a 4 month relationship with my ex, we both are 19 she was always good for me, she really cared for me. We both are in college and study the same thing so i see her almost every day. She was always at my place, had some of her stuff here, slept here every few days, was really emotional towards me and always would say something nice to me, hug me, even cry on my shoulder. We didn't have a very good sex life but we would make out all night, she loved giving me oral but our sex life was kinda bad and stupid in funny way. She would jokingly ask me everyday if i will marry her and i would answer with "well maybe after 10 years" and that would make her kinda sad. There were always guys hitting on her and she would always say to me if anyone does.I would react calmly and show her that i trust her (later she says that she mentioned all the guys hitting on her to make me jealous, to see how i react and she thinks that i didn't care about her since i was always calm about that) So the thing is she was very emotional and i was kinda cold, i did like her very much but i would express that very rarely. Now here comes the part where i *****ed up big. I had to go home for 10 days, visit my family get some stuff done, i said that everything will be fine its only 10 days. She was very sad when i left but i had to...but the thing is during the 10 days i would message her like once a day, never called, just asked how was she, she would attack me with messages, calls saying how she missed me and i would say that i missed her too but in kinda cold way, i didn't know how lonely she felt and everything looked fine to me, but it wasn't fine for her. So i get back im happy that i will see her after 10 days and call her immediately say that im back, lets go to a movie, have a dinner, but she said she was bussy (partying) i contact her other day and she starts *****ing with my emotions by saying how awesome the party was how she danced with a strong and handsome men, that she met some awesome guys and is being realy rude to me (and one day ago she said that she missed me very much) i was like WTF this soft little creature transformed into cold emotionless human being like in 1 second. So i finally meet her, make her a dinner at my place, she was very distant from me, we watched 3 movies, she then asked to massage her, i massaged her and she went to sleep in my bed with clothes on, i join her and we sleep together after all drama. But few hours later i woke up in the middle of the night and i feel that she is very distant from me in the bed, and she is awake, i try to hug her but she was all like "go away, don't touch me", i start to panic dunno what the ***** is happening. So morning comes i walk her to her home and she says that she is very mad at me how i treated her and says that she is not feeling anything to me anymore and needs some time.So yeah im crushed, confused and her birthday is in 5 days, she says i can still come if i wan't.So i get to her birthday party, got her nice pair of earrings.But she acts like she hates me and is talking about other guy in front of me again, later we get drunk and she takes me to the other room and says "everything is over with us, i don't want to be with you, you suck and gtfo from me", next day she doesn't remember anything cuz she got drunk as hell, she asks to come to her place cuz she got poisoned from alchohol and i had to bring her meds. So i come, give her the meds and she was like "you can go now", but nah i stayed and then we had a fight, she was yelling at me didn't let me come near her, i was all emotionaly crushed and said that i love her blah blah blah, why no second chance n stuff like that (typical bs), then i kinda called her a slut because i felt that she leaved me because of other guys so she throwed me out of her house like a dog.I get home and find a big message about how i don't deserve to be thrown like that but that i shouldn't insult her no matter what.I don't respond cuz im angry as ***** and later she deletes the message from skype.I talk to her friend and she says that she did mistake by leaving me and will come back to me cuz she would always say to her how happy she was with me. Well she starts dating other guys, starts partying A LOT, puts like 5 pictures a day shows how much fun she is having.I message her after 2 weeks we fight again and i say "ok im over you, sorry that i insulted you now i will move on" I don't message her for like 3 weeks. At college she is always trying to make me jealous, but she would put sad songs on her fb with comments like "i wish you were here", later on she tryes to contact me in many ways, like trying to make a meet with me without actually talking to me, then she invites me to making a birthday video for our friend, she starts messaging me random bs like "im watching "Shrek" right now on tv, lol", i respond with "yeah i did like the first one, but others kinda suck :D", she responds with "yeaaaaaaah, others are total bs" and i don't respond back, since she is not asking anything and didn't want to look needy.Now she doesn't message me at all.So we finally meet after 1month + to make a video and i see that actualy she is still very angry at me, all my actions and words make her angry, but atleast i could get near her this time. So yeah she still changes her fb photos like 3 times a day with "fun" statuses (she don't do this type of thing usually) and party a lot, also she was dating one guy for like 2 weeks but nothing happened between them and its over. And she didn't contacted me after we met with friends at her place to make that video (its been 1 week) so yeah she says that she broke up with me because i didn't show my feelings and that i was a total dik when i was gone for 10 days (i was a dik), so you think i can get her back? can she trust me again, i think i learned my lessons but how do i prove it to her, can i turn her hate into love? Thanks for reading Edited March 4, 2014 by a LoveShack.org Moderator
Chi townD Posted March 4, 2014 Posted March 4, 2014 Dude, don't even bother. She's treating you like crap and you don't deserve it. She's rubbing these new relationships in your face and the party scene...dude, you want to get a reaction out of her. Block her on Facebook. Delete her off of Skype. And Ignore all texts and phonecalls. Yeah, you weren't boyfriend of the year, but you didn't deserve the treatment you got at the end. Just move on dude. 2
erklat Posted March 4, 2014 Posted March 4, 2014 so yeah she says that she broke up with me because i didn't show my feelings and that i was a total dik when i was gone for 10 days (i was a dik), so you think i can get her back? can she trust me again, i think i learned my lessons but how do i prove it to her, can i turn her hate into love? Thanks for reading She broke with you to see what happens with other dude and the rest of her rationalizing is only to ease a dirty conscious. So the question is, can you believe someone like that and wake up next zo a person which deliberately caused you such pain? 1
Author RlyConfused Posted March 4, 2014 Author Posted March 4, 2014 I would block her on fb and other stuff but i don't want to look butthurt since i will see her 4 years almost every day in college anyways. There will be college party in 2 days, she should be there, im not kind of person who gets drunk and starts to do stupid **** but i expect that from her.If she will act immature again by obviously trying to make jealous then i will block her and forget about idea getting back together forever. Its funny how 9/10 times people say move on from ex
Chi townD Posted March 4, 2014 Posted March 4, 2014 I would block her on fb and other stuff but i don't want to look butthurt since i will see her 4 years almost every day in college anyways. There will be college party in 2 days, she should be there, im not kind of person who gets drunk and starts to do stupid **** but i expect that from her.If she will act immature again by obviously trying to make jealous then i will block her and forget about idea getting back together forever. Its funny how 9/10 times people say move on from ex There's a reason for that! Our Ex's are our Ex's. If she's going to be at that party, then I STRONGLY suggest that you not be there. Do something else. If you go, I'm pretty sure she's going to try and get a rise out of you. Why? Because it would be an ego boost to her! She'll love the fact that she can still get a rise out of you. She'll love to know that she still has power over you. Dude, block her from Facebook! You don't want to come across as butthurt? Well, guess what? YOU ARE BUTTHURT!!! And here's the rub, you're allowed to be! By having her as a FB Friend, you get to see inside her life and she gets to see inside yours. Well, she gave up that right when she gave you up! None of her business anymore.
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