1life Posted March 4, 2014 Posted March 4, 2014 Hey guys so my ex keeps tellig everyone she hates me. What is it supposed to mean because from my experience when you hate someone you don't wana talk about it. What does this mean guys and also i going to be goin to a formal event where my ex is going to be sitting at the same table any suggestions on how I should act.
d0cholliday Posted March 4, 2014 Posted March 4, 2014 Well, tell us more what happened. What is the reason for her hatred? What do you think you did? It is a good thing if she hates you, that means she still cares.... Hate is an emotion too. Even tough it isn't good, but it is an emotion. So give us more info please.
Author 1life Posted March 4, 2014 Author Posted March 4, 2014 So I had a really bad fight with her on her birthday and I kind of embarsed her. Which I've spent the last 2 months trying to make it up. I've been in no contact for almost 2 weeks now apart of me tells me she's misses me but I was confused that she's telling people that she hates me and I don't trust her. I feel like she doesn't admit her mistakes and I give in. I love her very much. Which is why I decided I should go no contact for now which is what I'm doing this week I'm gonna be seeing her at a formal event. I don't know what I should do or how I should act around her because I'm scared if I'm nice il look like a pushover. She's amazing but I realize sometimes girls like playing games
d0cholliday Posted March 4, 2014 Posted March 4, 2014 So I had a really bad fight with her on her birthday and I kind of embarsed her. Which I've spent the last 2 months trying to make it up. I've been in no contact for almost 2 weeks now apart of me tells me she's misses me but I was confused that she's telling people that she hates me and I don't trust her. I feel like she doesn't admit her mistakes and I give in. I love her very much. Which is why I decided I should go no contact for now which is what I'm doing this week I'm gonna be seeing her at a formal event. I don't know what I should do or how I should act around her because I'm scared if I'm nice il look like a pushover. She's amazing but I realize sometimes girls like playing games Well you are in NC, and that's good, probably she is telling others she hates you to get your attention... look at it as a form of breadcrumb. Keep NC for some time. When you go to that event, be polite, cool, stand your ground, don't try anything, try to be indifferent, don't initiate much contact with her, only if you need to, answer when asked... If you manage to play this thing right, she could initiate something, but do not expect anything. I don't want to give you false hope, just trying to prepare you for the event, so you can at least know what you can expect in general... I hope you apologized to her after the embarassment, and she knows you are truly sorry. She could be cold, so be careful, if she is cold, don't let her pull you to her mindgames. Just stay strong, be respectful, don't push, don't beg, don't plea, stay cool, indifferent, and let her do the talking, watch your mouth, pick your words. Don't get carried away. And also show her you've changed, I hope you did, and that you learned on your mistakes. Good luck, and please update us with your situation. You can get really good help here
Author 1life Posted March 4, 2014 Author Posted March 4, 2014 Hey thanks a lot I get what you mean and it means a lot when you take the time to reply I just don't understand how guys can show their emotions and girls are good at hiding it. I've realized my mistakes and I changed. Is there anythjng you can possibly do to make her understand like how can she not show that she misses me.
stillafool Posted March 4, 2014 Posted March 4, 2014 I would go and speak to everyone at the table including her. After that turn your attention to the person sitting next to you and anyone else who talks to you. I wouldn't give her any eye attention unless she wants to talk. Lastly, have a great time.
d0nnivain Posted March 4, 2014 Posted March 4, 2014 If you still love her, & you are here asking about why she's talking about you, tells me your NC is not a healing thing but a game. You two are on some dumb roller coaster. Her actions plus your post here make me think one or both of you is game playing. If you are done with her & no longer care about her, NC will help you heal. She's telling people she hates you because she still cares enough to be passionate. If she was done, she'd feel nothing & not be compelled to tell anybody anything about why you broke up. If there is any part of you that thinks you want to get back together reach out & ask why she's telling everybody she hates you. Then work on fixing what's wrong. If you are really done, ignore her. Take the high road & don't give another thought to what's she's saying or doing.
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