Whipcream Posted March 4, 2014 Posted March 4, 2014 Hello people on LS! I just wanted to post a quick update about my life and give a little hope for those heartbroken people out there Story: I dated my ex for almost 2 years until he blindsided me and broke up with me through facebook. Reasons? I don't really care anymore. He told me bunch of bull**** it's probably some case of GIGS. I went NC the same day he broke up. I blocked him everywhere and NEVER talked to him again. For the first 3 months I cried everyday, had trouble sleeping, broke down at the most random place/time, had panick attacks. It was so painful I thought of dying so many time But I didn't. Instead I improved myself to become a better person and also my appearance. I met new people and on the 5th month someone came into my life. We're seeing each other and taking things slowly. Fast foward few days ago I sort of broke NC. My new guy wanted to go to the restaurant where my ex work. I didn't mind going because I was over him anyways. We were sitting on a table and I saw him. He wasn't working I think he finished his shift. Our eyes met for a second and he looked down. He was trying SO HARD to avoid me it was actually funny (the restaurant is really small). Also his friend kept staring at my new bf He rushed out the restaurant and kept looking down. He didn't even look at me and I don't think he even had the courage to. Oh well. I had a great dinner So yes NC helped me A LOT after my break up. So don't give up guys!!! Even tho it's hard I know you can do it! You can get through this! Happiness will slowly come to you (: *gives hugs to everyone* 2
Strength in Healing Posted March 4, 2014 Posted March 4, 2014 Whilst overly happy posts always make me question the validity of the individual/situation, I have to give you credit for immediately going NC and not breaking. I have been the same at this stage. That is good to see strength like that.
redbaron005 Posted March 4, 2014 Posted March 4, 2014 My new guy wanted to go to the restaurant where my ex work. I didn't mind going because I was over him anyways. We were sitting on a table and I saw him. I agree, good strength going NC for that long. I do, however, have a quick question: Did you tell the new guy that you knew your ex worked at this restaurant? For some reason, I do not feel as if going there was fair to either man. I mean if it was a Casablanca situation I might understand, but going on purpose...from an outsiders perspective seems like provoking jealousy and giving yourself an ego boost. If this was the case, you may still have some improving to do (as we probably all do to some extent). 1
Author Whipcream Posted March 4, 2014 Author Posted March 4, 2014 I agree, good strength going NC for that long. I do, however, have a quick question: Did you tell the new guy that you knew your ex worked at this restaurant? For some reason, I do not feel as if going there was fair to either man. I mean if it was a Casablanca situation I might understand, but going on purpose...from an outsiders perspective seems like provoking jealousy and giving yourself an ego boost. If this was the case, you may still have some improving to do (as we probably all do to some extent). Yes I did tell him that my ex worked in that restaurant but he still wanted to go. I didn't meant to provoke jealousy or anything.. I think he was curious of how my ex looks like since I never really talk about him.
redbaron005 Posted March 4, 2014 Posted March 4, 2014 I think he was curious of how my ex looks like since I never really talk about him. Really? If this is true, it would have been red flag in my mind, especially one month in. It really should not matter what your ex looks like, but if it did so much you could have just shown him a picture. If he did insist on going, it may have been to see your reaction around your ex, as he may have got the impression that you were not over him (the same impression I got from your OP) or him over you (which also may be true). I would not have gone and would liked to have seen some trust from my new partner, but that's just me.
oracle Posted March 5, 2014 Posted March 5, 2014 I am happy that you got to have your fun. You are over it when you are in the REVERSE role, and feel nothing. Its easy to feel over it when you are mentally prepared and with a new guy and your ex is by himself and having to see this and is certainly uncomfortable. I lived with my ex for 3.5 years while we are divorcing.. he has met my young boyfriends, and I have run into him out in public while with hot yng boy toys. While I had the upper hand... I know i was never over it cause it caused SOME emotional response inside (positive and negative) 1
jphcbpa Posted March 5, 2014 Posted March 5, 2014 I lived with my ex for 3.5 years while we are divorcing.. he has met my young boyfriends, and I have run into him out in public while with hot yng boy toys. While I had the upper hand... I know i was never over it cause it caused SOME emotional response inside (positive and negative) do you think with some people we will always feel that...even years down the road?
oracle Posted March 6, 2014 Posted March 6, 2014 do you think with some people we will always feel that...even years down the road? I ask myself this everyday. To be honest. I think that once I have really fully 'gotten used to' (I hate using the term moved on) not having my ex in my life, and accepting the fact that he has his own life now without me and can do so without me (People who have been with one person since they were technically kids that went atleast into their mid adult years with them will understand me) then I think I am probably better off alone and single. Maybe this will change... dunno
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