peruano99 Posted March 4, 2014 Posted March 4, 2014 Now I noticed a lot of the girls that are like 18 to 20 from my college tend to go for the "pretty boys". I on the other hand don't see myself as a pretty guy. I have dark hair, brown eyes, facial hair, and my skin complexion gets really dark in the summer....but for some reason I attract girls who are 21+ around my age. So what kind of looks do women prefer?
Author peruano99 Posted March 4, 2014 Author Posted March 4, 2014 Now I have a really tranquil personality and always study my medical subjects whenever I am at college. I don't like wasting time on the cafe playing games when I have tons of tests to do. Don't get me wrong, I like to have fun and party just like any regular guy, but I go to college classes to prepare myself for Pre- Medical. I'm looking to go to Medical school in the future.
BrunoJ19 Posted March 4, 2014 Posted March 4, 2014 I think it really depends on what a girl is looking for or where she is in her life. For example I am 27, and for a long time I had a big thing for "pretty boys" and/or the jock type guys.. all good looking men who are usually the life of the party and the type to be flirting and talking to numerous girls at a time, but after awhile going for guys like that becomes exhausting and frustrating. Now at 27 I kind of see things differently...personality matters ALOT! However I do think there needs to be physical attraction, but now it's not about going after the "hottest guy" Someone who is a 10 but a complete ******* versus someone who is a 6 but a great guy is not as attractive as the who is a 6 but a great guy. 1
Ruby Slippers Posted March 4, 2014 Posted March 4, 2014 Just like men, women generally select the hottest guys for casual sex, and average to attractive guys for long-term relationships and marriage, for a lot of the same reasons - stability, loyalty, comfort, etc. But the more care you take with the assets you were born with, the more prospects you will attract overall. 5
Hopeful30 Posted March 4, 2014 Posted March 4, 2014 Looks and personality are both important, hence why it's so hard to find a partner. I like one personality, but the looks not so much, whereas a woman may find the same guy hot but dwindling in personality. It's so hard to find a good balance. I've gone both ways. Dated the guy with personality but ugly (I thought so anyways) and couldn't go anywhere. I just couldn't even bring myself to kiss him. So yes, attractiveness is important. On the other hand, I've dated really hot guys but they were so lacking in other areas that nothing came of that either. Sure it's great eye candy... but it takes more than that to please a woman. These are extreme examples of course, but to answer your question, neither triumphs the other. You need both. 1
kaylan Posted March 4, 2014 Posted March 4, 2014 Now I noticed a lot of the girls that are like 18 to 20 from my college tend to go for the "pretty boys". I on the other hand don't see myself as a pretty guy. I have dark hair, brown eyes, facial hair, and my skin complexion gets really dark in the summer....but for some reason I attract girls who are 21+ around my age. So what kind of looks do women prefer? Depends on the woman. Despite what a lot of chicks will say, their actions show me they value looks a lot, just like men do. Times have changed bro. 1
MissBee Posted March 4, 2014 Posted March 4, 2014 Now I noticed a lot of the girls that are like 18 to 20 from my college tend to go for the "pretty boys". I on the other hand don't see myself as a pretty guy. I have dark hair, brown eyes, facial hair, and my skin complexion gets really dark in the summer....but for some reason I attract girls who are 21+ around my age. So what kind of looks do women prefer? It seems you're equating darkness (of hair, skin eyes etc) to being unattractive, which is very problematic. In any case, there is no such thing as what "women" prefer....different women like different things and there is no one look every and all women like. Frankly, I prefer darker features over light ones. Different women like different things and I also am confused about the thread title in relation to the actual question. You didn't seem to ask anything about personality?
d0nnivain Posted March 4, 2014 Posted March 4, 2014 Different people have different preferences. Your question is like asking us whether women like Chocolate or Vanilla ice cream. Some will like one over the other, some will like both, some will prefer frozen yogurt & others will be lactose intolerant. At a minimum for most people you should be clean & well groomed with something to say. Beyond that it's a personal preference.
Author peruano99 Posted March 4, 2014 Author Posted March 4, 2014 It seems you're equating darkness (of hair, skin eyes etc) to being unattractive, which is very problematic. In any case, there is no such thing as what "women" prefer....different women like different things and there is no one look every and all women like. Frankly, I prefer darker features over light ones. Different women like different things and I also am confused about the thread title in relation to the actual question. You didn't seem to ask anything about personality? Yeah I always wanted to have lighter complexion, but I just can't so I have gotten used to it now...Girls tell me I'm good looking, I just don't feel like I am.
nessaaa Posted March 4, 2014 Posted March 4, 2014 What your really asking is...." what do WHITE women prefer "...righ?.
carhill Posted March 4, 2014 Posted March 4, 2014 Without any hair, my personality shines right through! Historically, since the vast majority of women rejected me without ever knowing who I was as a person, or really anything about me other than I was in front of them asking them on a date, it would be hard to argue that hearing 'I'd love to take you to dinner on Friday' would be sufficiently unattractive to overcome their overwhelming attraction to sight, smell and touch. Wait.... From my perspective as an old fart who dated some, got rejected a lot, and have been married, looks get the interview. I failed a lot of looks tests. That's how life goes. I'm happy with that now. Life's too short to dwell on such things as what looks women prefer. Too bad it took a lot of experience to ram that into my thick hairless skull. Past the interview stage, at least in my experience with LTR's and being married, personality is far more important as a 'matter'. Caution!: Be aware, if attraction isn't strong to looks, it's far easier to get tossed if one bobbles, personality-wise. The room for mistake and error and failing is far more slim from where/when physical attraction to appearances is strong. Normally, I'd take a thread like this and see it as a 'women only answer' type thread; however, having interacted with hundreds to thousands of women in life, there's also value in the gathering of that experience and noting what the results have been. Do they describe any particular respondent? Maybe, maybe not. However, for a man who will walk the path of interacting with multitudes of women, it's good to know what other men have experienced. 2
Author peruano99 Posted March 4, 2014 Author Posted March 4, 2014 (edited) What your really asking is...." what do WHITE women prefer "...righ?. Nope just women in general. Well I'll comment about my personality now: I am a sociable person, really friendly with everyone who is nice, but whenever I am at college I act mature and just go there to study. Edited March 4, 2014 by peruano99
shinealight Posted March 4, 2014 Posted March 4, 2014 Personality wins all the time! Why be with someone who is sexy but has zilch chemistry and personalty when you can meet someone who probs ain't sexy but you can get on like a house on fire?
Els Posted March 5, 2014 Posted March 5, 2014 At 18-20 years old - yeah, I don't think most teenage boys OR girls are mature enough to prioritize personality. People do grow up, though, with experience, and after a couple of failed relationships they tend to know what they want a lot better.
Imported Posted March 5, 2014 Posted March 5, 2014 "Looks get the interview..." Granted, you need more to "get the job", but to even have a chance to get the job....you need to get the interview. People assume stuff all the time based on looks. Some women will have already imagined a life with you if you are attractive to them. A lot of leeways will be allowed. That annoying thing you do? It's endearing to them. Your personality? They will see the better side of it. They will like you because of your personality, because you click with them, because you are attractive to look at. Eventually, most people just settle for what they can get. And then rationalize it to make themselves feel better about what they got.
Author peruano99 Posted March 5, 2014 Author Posted March 5, 2014 I don't know if it's the fact that I am a very mature person for my age that may attract some of my classmates to me. I'm only 21, but act very mature for my age. I don't fool around at college, get drunk, or do anything that would be considered "cool" to just try to fit in. I have my own personality and I wouldn't try to be someone I'm not just doing something because the whole crowd is doing it. I have my mind set in finishing Pre-med and hopefully getting into a good Medical school so I can help my family for all they have done for me.
skippy88 Posted March 6, 2014 Posted March 6, 2014 How many fat comedians do you see with supermodels? there's your answer lol
Badsingularity Posted March 6, 2014 Posted March 6, 2014 Looks matter, but so does the amount of confidence you have and how you make a woman feel when she is around you.
topaMAXX Posted March 6, 2014 Posted March 6, 2014 Just like men, women generally select the hottest guys for casual sex, and average to attractive guys for long-term relationships and marriage, for a lot of the same reasons - stability, loyalty, comfort, etc. But the more care you take with the assets you were born with, the more prospects you will attract overall. I've heard this a lot, but it has not been true in my experience. I'm a short guy with a cute face (so I'm told). I don't really have trouble getting casual sex, but I find it much more difficult to get into relationships. Of course, I generally have to approach (but not always).
Author peruano99 Posted March 6, 2014 Author Posted March 6, 2014 Thanks for all the help. I recently have been following a strict diet and exercise program due to my Health. I have lost 25 lbs, and I have been getting more looks now than I did before. I didn't lose weight to attract, but because I was getting heavier that it affected my health. I still have a long way to go, but I won't stop.
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