BJP56 Posted March 4, 2014 Posted March 4, 2014 Im taking things slow, but my GF wants me to explore other anvenues before considering a relationship with her first. Being from a small town most of my avenues are limited if not already taken. She has this fear I will wake up one morning and not want her anymore. I am not forcing myself to like her, I like her genuinely, and I have shared that with her openly. To me I dont think that will happen if you know what you already want. The mistake I see most make from my perspective is rushing into a relationship. I have no intention of rushing it, nor do I want to. We dont see eachother every single day but, the times that we do, we cant seem to keep our hands or lips off eachother. I am not forcing anything I am letting it play out on its own. But I have a nagging question because it keeps coming up in our talks about first GF's and BF's not lasting. Do first GF's/BF's last?
mr_dave Posted March 4, 2014 Posted March 4, 2014 They can do but it's rarer these days! I found that out to my cost. It doesn't help that people say "how can you know you love your first if you haven't been with other people?" it's rubbish, but it puts seeds of doubt in people's heads. It put doubt in my ex's head, so she left me for another guy, but found out he wasn't an upgrade after all! It's so easy for people now to cheat and find someone else too. People think that at a click of a button they can upgrade, and always find someone better. So yes it's unlikely your first will be your last. About your girlfriend, well I think this might be her way of saying that exploring other options is what SHE would like to do. If you're crazy for someone you don't want them seeing other people. 1
Author BJP56 Posted March 4, 2014 Author Posted March 4, 2014 It doesn't help that people say "how can you know you love your first if you haven't been with other people?" No it never does, when you know you know. She told me I looked like I was hit by lightening the first day we met. Sometimes I wonder if what I am doing is a immature love crush but, its gone way beyond that now. I am finding it wise to give her breathing room. I dont stalk her or seek her out. She does like that about me. The guys I have seen her attract dont do those things. They just pounce and hit on her. Its nice to know she feels safe with me and around me.
Janesays Posted March 4, 2014 Posted March 4, 2014 How old are you? If you're in high school, statistically speaking, no it won't last. You have a better chance at winning a bucket of money betting on the ponies. With that said, even if it doesn't last, that doesn't mean it has no value. Every relationship, no matter how long, has the ability to change you in a fundamental way. So enjoy it no matter what. And heck, people DO win the lottery sometimes. 3
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