Mondmellonw Posted March 4, 2014 Posted March 4, 2014 I've been doing fine. There were still some days were all I could do was to blame myself for things that in retrospective I'm not really proud of. Anytime I got sad I thought about the way he treated me. I even saved the last conversation we had on Facebook, Idk if this is fine, but it helps me see how much he wanted to harm me in any possible way at the time. Last Sunday we received 3 calls when we were (me and my family) outside home for church and some other stuff. We got this ID caller, so we saw that those three calls were from the same number. When we arrived, they called again (another two times). My dad answered, they hung up the phone without saying anything. A few minutes passed and then they called again, my mom answered... No response, they hung up (again). It was him. We searched for the number on our local directory. I didn't had it because his parents changed it while we were still together. Funny thing is I remember writing in here "he never called me on the phone when we were a couple, so it would be kind of.... are you kidding me?" I was feeling better, so I'm trying to not drown on it. Still, it makes me wonder: why? Did he wanted me to answer? Why he has not send anything? (text) and instead he did this?
Zahara Posted March 4, 2014 Posted March 4, 2014 I was feeling better, so I'm trying to not drown on it. Still, it makes me wonder: why? Did he wanted me to answer? Why he has not send anything? (text) and instead he did this? It's futile to wonder why, OP. If it was anything of substance, he would have grown some balls, spoken to your father/mother, asked for you and said something of significance to you. Even if he wanted you to answer but didn't get that opportunity, he has every opportunity to follow up in other ways to get to you. We can speculate as to why he called. You see many threads on here about dumpers calling dumpees and most times it's just to say hi and get an ego boost. If it was important, he would be following up. The fact that he isn't is a clear indication that you should let it go. I know it is hard but don't allow it to trigger your hope. 1
Author Mondmellonw Posted March 4, 2014 Author Posted March 4, 2014 It's futile to wonder why, OP. If it was anything of substance, he would have grown some balls, spoken to your father/mother, asked for you and said something of significance to you. Even if he wanted you to answer but didn't get that opportunity, he has every opportunity to follow up in other ways to get to you. We can speculate as to why he called. You see many threads on here about dumpers calling dumpees and most times it's just to say hi and get an ego boost. If it was important, he would be following up. The fact that he isn't is a clear indication that you should let it go. I know it is hard but don't allow it to trigger your hope. It's a little weird, because I am the dumper. The story is weird. But the circumstances are nothing, you're right, he didn't said anything. Thank you.
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