abby2 Posted March 4, 2014 Posted March 4, 2014 I met this really nice guy through a friend, but I'm 7 years older than him. I'm in 30's and he's in his 20's, he said he doesn't mind I'm older than him, he's ok with it because he likes me. I wonder what you guys think of this age difference, is this a deal breaker if you were in my situation?
HeartbrokenNewbie Posted March 4, 2014 Posted March 4, 2014 I dont think its a deal breaker at all... some people are more mature than others x as long as we are just talking adults then I think go with what u feel is right x 1
TaraMaiden Posted March 4, 2014 Posted March 4, 2014 I'm 5 years older than my H. We've been together 10 years. My grandma was 11 years older than my grandfather. 62 years married. Next question? 6
soccerrprp Posted March 4, 2014 Posted March 4, 2014 Not necessarily. It depends on where you two are in life. What he wants and what you want. 1
d0nnivain Posted March 4, 2014 Posted March 4, 2014 I'm 5 years older than my husband & my mom was 5 years older than my dad. As long as both people are in the same places in life, it's not big deal. When one is in college & the other has been out for years it can be a problem. 2
kaylan Posted March 4, 2014 Posted March 4, 2014 I'm 5 years older than my H. We've been together 10 years. My grandma was 11 years older than my grandfather. 62 years married. Next question? Runs in the family?
jefermelesyeux Posted March 4, 2014 Posted March 4, 2014 do you think it's a deal breaker? views on age disparity in relationships vary from person to person. if you're both okay with it, then go for it. it doesn't matter what anyone else has to say. 1
FitChick Posted March 5, 2014 Posted March 5, 2014 I wonder what you guys think of this age difference, is this a deal breaker if you were in my situation? Worry less about what other people think and go by what YOU think. They won't be dating him. 1
babycakees Posted March 5, 2014 Posted March 5, 2014 It all depends on the guy. If he is mature for his age, it shouldn't matter. Another thing to consider is how you feel about it. All that matters how you feel. Not what anyone else's opinion is. 1
Noproblem Posted March 5, 2014 Posted March 5, 2014 I met this really nice guy through a friend, but I'm 7 years older than him. I'm in 30's and he's in his 20's, he said he doesn't mind I'm older than him, he's ok with it because he likes me. I wonder what you guys think of this age difference, is this a deal breaker if you were in my situation? I wrote a long reply and it got deleted accidentally ", I will get back to you later 1
Noproblem Posted March 7, 2014 Posted March 7, 2014 Hey .....Age difference is like any other thing in any relationship. It can be a deal breaker only if you let it... Meaning, look at the world around you.. Generally guys marry women who are younger than them... Does that mean they are so happy and they don't fight or get divorced? I don't need to say ...Yes, many of them fight, hate each other, cheat, lie and yeah get divorced? why? Because life is full of drama and problems...Love ends anyway... Many other reasons.. We don't know why.....! This guy likes you, you like him ..I know this situation since many of the guys who are interested in me are younger by 7+ years ...It sucks I know! At first, you get faltered, then you get all those kind of fear and concerns, and later you feel guilty! There are only 2 ways for your situation ...Either you accept that this guy will always going to be younger than you, and there is no way in the world you can change that, except by feeling younger ...(feeling is different from reality) and based on that you are going to try to continue this relationship and come what may... Or you are going to whine about how life is not fair (that's what I do) and if only he was 2 years younger or 3 ...etc etc.. So, you will hate your age, yourself, feeling insecure, and eventually ruining a potentially good relationship based on fear and prejudice... If you are worrying about other girls, well, any girl nowadays worry regardless of her age (Have you seen how gorgeous are girls now a day).. but the guy won't cheat if it's a true love and a healthy relationship and if you are worried that you'll look older than him See, I bet you already looking good and young; chances are he'll look older than you in 2 years or 3 ... unless he takes care of himself and even at that rate, this is not a big problem ... You just keep on taking care of your food. Exercise everyday, be fit, and enjoy your time and you'll always look younger than him ...and yeah there's no harm in getting extra help when needed... See, I am not trying to make you choose this guy. I am just saying enjoy the moment. If you can't do that.. If you can't accept that he'll always be younger than you ...then you just can't and it's better to end it before anyone gets hurt... Yes, life is unfair, but it's always like this
pickflicker Posted March 7, 2014 Posted March 7, 2014 I met this really nice guy through a friend, but I'm 7 years older than him. I'm in 30's and he's in his 20's, he said he doesn't mind I'm older than him, he's ok with it because he likes me. I wonder what you guys think of this age difference, is this a deal breaker if you were in my situation? 7 years is nothing. If they're not old enough to be your parent, game on. 2
gaius Posted March 7, 2014 Posted March 7, 2014 If they're not old enough to be your parent, game on. Nothing wrong with them being that old in a lot of cases either.
Gaeta Posted March 7, 2014 Posted March 7, 2014 It does not matter to a certain point. I am a 48 yo female and my date tonight is 37. He's 11 years younger BUT we both have been married, we're both parents, both financially stable and at 37 he has some living in him. At 20 this man is just coming out of his teen years. He's cute and that's about it. He has zero life experience, no financial stability, and the mentality of a 16 years old. You will get some fun out of him but don't expect anything serious. If he were 24-25 maybe, not 20. We know girls mature much faster them guys. It's a - or + 4 years. At 20 a guy has the maturity of a 16 yo, and at 20 a woman has the maturity of 24. So no, the number doesn't count but the level of maturity does. At 30 what are you looking for? If you are looking for a man to start making babies, he's not it.
kaylan Posted March 8, 2014 Posted March 8, 2014 It does not matter to a certain point. I am a 48 yo female and my date tonight is 37. He's 11 years younger BUT we both have been married, we're both parents, both financially stable and at 37 he has some living in him. At 20 this man is just coming out of his teen years. He's cute and that's about it. He has zero life experience, no financial stability, and the mentality of a 16 years old. You will get some fun out of him but don't expect anything serious. If he were 24-25 maybe, not 20. We know girls mature much faster them guys. It's a - or + 4 years. At 20 a guy has the maturity of a 16 yo, and at 20 a woman has the maturity of 24. So no, the number doesn't count but the level of maturity does. At 30 what are you looking for? If you are looking for a man to start making babies, he's not it. The bold is patently false. More than enough men will tell you that based on their experiences dating women under 25.
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