Ditapage Posted March 4, 2014 Posted March 4, 2014 This guy friend used to reply to my texts and promptly. Yesterday we had a situation where I told him I don't want rumours of me being romantically interested in him to come between our friendship and apologised if I gave the wrong impression and made him think I like him. Today I sent him a text thanking him for being cool and taking the time to talk it over and wished him well for a trip he leaves for, today. And I got no reply. Is it something I said the day before? I thought we were just friends anyway?
David87 Posted March 4, 2014 Posted March 4, 2014 This guy friend used to reply to my texts and promptly. Yesterday we had a situation where I told him I don't want rumours of me being romantically interested in him to come between our friendship and apologised if I gave the wrong impression and made him think I like him. Today I sent him a text thanking him for being cool and taking the time to talk it over and wished him well for a trip he leaves for, today. And I got no reply. Is it something I said the day before? I thought we were just friends anyway? You told him that you aren't interested in him romantically and that you don't want rumors about you to, by doing that you shot him right in his ego. He obviously likes you more than a friend and thought that one day you may become a couple. That's why he doesnt respond. You did good by being honest with him.
Emilia Posted March 4, 2014 Posted March 4, 2014 If someone sent me a text telling me he didn't want 'rumours' about him and I, I would think that was extremely rude and I would stop talking to that person too. How offensive. It's one thing to want only friendship but saying to a guy you don't want to be associated with him? Good riddance on his part.
Author Ditapage Posted March 4, 2014 Author Posted March 4, 2014 You told him that you aren't interested in him romantically and that you don't want rumors about you to, by doing that you shot him right in his ego. He obviously likes you more than a friend and thought that one day you may become a couple. That's why he doesnt respond. You did good by being honest with him. I guess I don't think because I didn't mean to hurt his ego (if that's the case) I didn't think he likes me more than a friend. I made a fuss about the rumour though because I didn't want it making things awkward between us and maybe that offended him. But I did say "oh well if the worst people can say is I like you, I'm doing something right" and he just frowned. Does that sound like it was offensive? If someone sent me a text telling me he didn't want 'rumours' about him and I, I would think that was extremely rude and I would stop talking to that person too. How offensive. It's one thing to want only friendship but saying to a guy you don't want to be associated with him? Good riddance on his part. I didn't say I didn't want to be associated with him... I said the rumour bothered me because its untrue and we're just friends. But I see your point and maybe didn't stop to think that my kicking up a stink about it upset him... I don't know if it would leave a guy feeling rejected...though I never actually rejected him.
David87 Posted March 4, 2014 Posted March 4, 2014 Rarely a boy and a girl can be just friends, because at some point one of them wants to be more than friends, as the case here.
lovenotwar Posted March 7, 2014 Posted March 7, 2014 Maybe you hurt him, but it's really hard to say. Certainly I'd say that heavy stuff like that (anything even remotely related to rejection or breaking up) shouldn't be done over text. Text message is pretty much the worst communication method available, and using it for anything of importance is just begging to create problems like this. I don't think you should read too much into this. Just wait a bit, and try to get in contact by a more reliable communication mechanism, to see where you stand.
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