Woggle Posted March 4, 2014 Posted March 4, 2014 The recent incident with my former FWB and my wife got me thinking and I notice that I have really good instincts about people. Back when she wanted to get serious I just knew she would not make a good relationship partner and this is not something I should do. I knew nothing of her cheating ways back then but my instincts kept me from ending up like her fiance. On the other hand when I met my wife I just knew she was special within a few weeks of knowing her. I got this aura from her that I have never felt with any other woman I have been involved with. I was right. How good are your instincts when dealing with the opposite sex?
Frank2thepoint Posted March 4, 2014 Posted March 4, 2014 My instincts are quite accurate, but not perfect. In the past, and my dumb youth, I've ignored my instincts almost completely with women. Because of this, I thought perseverance and persistence would allow me to win the heart of any woman I chose. Clearly I deluded myself. Now I practice listening to my instincts about women, which is hard. Often the heart can be very powerful and dominating, yearning for a connection, while putting down instincts. But luckily for me instincts won out and warned me about all of my ex-girlfriends. Now getting instincts to help me identify the good ones is a real tricky business.
MissBee Posted March 4, 2014 Posted March 4, 2014 Pretty spot on. It's when I ignore it that I get into trouble and kick myself. 1
xxoo Posted March 4, 2014 Posted March 4, 2014 Mine are good, but it is more judgment than instincts. My first impression is usually not accurate, but I give people time to reveal themselves, and they always do. The people I've grown to trust rarely let me down.
Anela Posted March 4, 2014 Posted March 4, 2014 (edited) When I was younger, they were excellent. I make the mistake of not listening to my gut all of the time, and that's where I trip up. With what's happened over the past few years, I knew how it was going to play out, but nobody listened to me... (family things). Edited March 4, 2014 by Anela
salparadise Posted March 5, 2014 Posted March 5, 2014 My instincts have improved remarkably over the years, esp. since divorce. The reason is that I've worked at it... reading, courses and volunteering where I receive training/experience. The only thing that trips me up is the inverse sanity/hotness correlation. I can spot a cluster B from a thousand yards; resisting, well I'm still studying that chapter.
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