melissaxo Posted March 4, 2014 Posted March 4, 2014 I dated this guy for a while last year, we were both crazy about each other but the timing was just so wrong for both of us and it didn't end up working out. I reached out to him in October to tell him I still thought of him sometimes. He told me he was seeing someone, but he missed me too. That was that. He contacted me in december, we spoke a little, caught up. He's no longer with his girlfriend, and we are both in much better places right now. I have such a feeling that if we were to try again, it would work this time. I've been speaking to him on and off since January, but we haven't actually seen each other yet. We've spoken almost every day in February, and he's been the one to initiate almost all the conversations/texts/phone calls. He's said he misses me and he wants to see me. We've tried getting together a few times, but our work schedules are polar opposites so it's been a little difficult. The last time I spoke to him was Friday night. Our conversation kind of ended, I was the last one to send a text though. I texted him again saturday, and he hasn't answered me. I honestly don't understand. I want to send him another text but I don't want to seem extremely desperate.. he seemed so into me, and so into seeing me I don't understand what happened What should I say if I send him another message?
zen2475 Posted March 4, 2014 Posted March 4, 2014 You don't send him another message. He received your texts and he knows you are interested. From here you wait and see what he does.
mjkid31 Posted March 4, 2014 Posted March 4, 2014 You should just tell him how you feel and be honest. 1
Lernaean_Hydra Posted March 4, 2014 Posted March 4, 2014 Ok first of all, don't send him another message. Period. If he reaches out to you again then by all means, reply back, but absolutely do not initiate a second time. Second, maybe he's busy? It's only been a few days and you really seem to be putting (what I think is) too much emphasis on your interactions. I don't think he's doing anything to intentionally harm you or hurt your feelings. However I DO think you're sort of doing pedestalizing the relationship and looking at this as how they "could have been" or will be as opposed to how they really were or are. Relax. Don't get so hung up on this guy, nor the idea of trying to rekindle the relationship because you're so sure it'll work out this time. Maybe it will, maybe it won't, but don't force it and don't put all your eggs in that particular basket. Alternatively, the fact that you were only speaking sporadically prior to February when your conversation seemed to pick back up says that maybe he was going though something at the time and wanted a bit of an ego boost or validation from you. Hell, maybe he really did miss you at the time. Some people go through rough periods and start reminiscing about old romances and getting wistful, only for that feeling to wane once things get back on track for them again. I'd prepare myself for that possibility as well.
MidwestUSA Posted March 4, 2014 Posted March 4, 2014 Don't text him again. There was probably something more than timing wrong the first time you got together. He's either lost interest, or wasn't taking you very seriously in the first place. Sorry, he should have had the spine to tell you.
kpkballer Posted March 4, 2014 Posted March 4, 2014 I would not Send another text. It makes you Look desperate. You text him once already When he has time im sure he will text you back. Especially that Being he is the one Who inititates more contact.. HE WILL RESPOND. Give it time
Noproblem Posted March 4, 2014 Posted March 4, 2014 It's ok He was gone for 2 days. Maybe he is upset from something, busy, sick, sad, or just playing hard to get,,,... Give him a break and stop asking about him
Author melissaxo Posted March 4, 2014 Author Posted March 4, 2014 It's kind of funny, because I'm not usually insecure but I've liked this guy for over a year and I'm sooo happy we started talking again. He was with someone else in the time we weren't together, and I guess I'm just worried that the longer we don't see each other the more chances he has of ending up with someone else again. It's so hard not to text him lol, even though everything logical in me is telling me not to
OhThatGirl Posted March 4, 2014 Posted March 4, 2014 If he finds someone else he wasn't that interested. Keeping in contact with him doesn't prevent him from finding another girl or moving on to something else. Only his feelings and interest in you can do that. So if he's gone, is because he wasn't that dedicated to getting together. His silence is a sign of this rather than the cause. Just wait and see. Don't hold your breath. Keep doing other stuff that makes you happy. 1
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