Smthn_Like_Olivia Posted March 4, 2014 Posted March 4, 2014 Thats the sh*t I got too !... the ex was still in the picture unbeknown to me . I walked when he said he needed time to think wether to make it official.. Im glad I did... x Good for you!! If a man has to THINK about whether or not he really wants to be with you, then you should make up his mind for him and walk! It's all or nothing for me, and there's always going to be someone else out there that doesn't need time to think about it. 1
HeartbrokenNewbie Posted March 4, 2014 Posted March 4, 2014 Good for you!! If a man has to THINK about whether or not he really wants to be with you, then you should make up his mind for him and walk! It's all or nothing for me, and there's always going to be someone else out there that doesn't need time to think about it. Exactly ! it went against everything I usually would have done but learnt a lot through my LTR BU and was never going to lose my self respect again... I do doubt myself sometimes and wonder if maybe I had have given him the couple of days to think then could things have been different and dont get me wrong I would love to hear from him but I dont have any feelings of regret over what I have said or the walking away x 1
Conners Posted March 4, 2014 Posted March 4, 2014 Exactly ! it went against everything I usually would have done but learnt a lot through my LTR BU and was never going to lose my self respect again... I do doubt myself sometimes and wonder if maybe I had have given him the couple of days to think then could things have been different and dont get me wrong I would love to hear from him but I dont have any feelings of regret over what I have said or the walking away x I remember your original thread! Since you cut him off and walked away did he every try and contact you again? x
HeartbrokenNewbie Posted March 4, 2014 Posted March 4, 2014 I remember your original thread! Since you cut him off and walked away did he every try and contact you again? x No I havent as of yet but our last correspondence (when I finished with him) he asked to be friends and I said we couldnt be friends as thats just a fallacy he then attempted to flirt with me again!... I ignored him... but I do have a funny feeling I will hear from him again... in the meantime Im back out dating... and the best thing is I can look back and see i didnt embarrass myself or say too much !... unlike my LTR BU where I regretted so many of my words and actions & still do !! x
Hopeful30 Posted March 4, 2014 Posted March 4, 2014 Don't just let him disappear like this, this is cruel and weak from him. Make him break up with you like a man should, like you deserve. You did not date him 2 weeks, you were in each other's life, had met friends and family etc. I am so tired of this BS from men. Now with this 'he's not that into you' attitude women just let men get away with no expectation! We just let them slide out of our life without making it difficult for them. Block your number and call him: Say: YOU have something to tell me? Make him break up with you. I understand this advice, but you know what? Why make it hard on the man to walk away? Let him. It's his loss. No worthy woman will ever fight for a man, even to break up with her. He doesn't have the decency and respect to break up with her? Then OP shouldn't have the decency to even give him the opportunity to dump her like a man. That would be my suggestion. 5
Author babycakees Posted March 4, 2014 Author Posted March 4, 2014 (edited) Well...I'm definitely not going to show up at the guys house. I feel like that would definitely make me appear a little crazy. It just infuriates me that he doesn't think he needs to give me an explanation. We communicated everyday and saw each other at least 4 times a week. He told me one time how another girl did this same thing to him and he demanded she tell him what was going on. Apparently it didn't bother him too much if he is ok turning it around and doing it to someone else. I've been thinking about sending him a text saying something like "so I guess I'm to assume the silence means you no longer see this going anywhere. Good luck in the future. Take care" Edited March 4, 2014 by babycakees
HeartbrokenNewbie Posted March 4, 2014 Posted March 4, 2014 Dont u send anything ! x he knows... just remember that x It honestly would not surprise me if u shortly find out the ex is on the scene... x
Author babycakees Posted March 4, 2014 Author Posted March 4, 2014 I don't understand why he initiated the last time we communicated if he was planning on doing something like this....what a bunch of mind games. I've already made up my mind if he communicates again, I'm not going down that road again. I've heard from multiple people that he probably will pop up again sometime. By the time he comes around, I hope I've moved on. 1
Hopeful30 Posted March 4, 2014 Posted March 4, 2014 I don't understand why he initiated the last time we communicated if he was planning on doing something like this.... Because why not? You made yourself available to him under any circumstances... His intentions clearly didn't even matter to you if you stuck around even after all he did. So how was this any different?
HeartbrokenNewbie Posted March 4, 2014 Posted March 4, 2014 More than likely because someone else popped back into the picture ! mine was fine the day before too ! x
Author babycakees Posted March 4, 2014 Author Posted March 4, 2014 Because why not? You made yourself available to him under any circumstances... His intentions clearly didn't even matter to you if you stuck around even after all he did. So how was this any different? I'm little confused what you mean by all he did to me...this is first thing he's ever done to me like this. Granted I realize it's over but it just sucks that this guy turned out to be a coward.
Conners Posted March 5, 2014 Posted March 5, 2014 Well...I'm definitely not going to show up at the guys house. I feel like that would definitely make me appear a little crazy. It just infuriates me that he doesn't think he needs to give me an explanation. We communicated everyday and saw each other at least 4 times a week. He told me one time how another girl did this same thing to him and he demanded she tell him what was going on. Apparently it didn't bother him too much if he is ok turning it around and doing it to someone else. I've been thinking about sending him a text saying something like "so I guess I'm to assume the silence means you no longer see this going anywhere. Good luck in the future. Take care" Sounds like he was pretty hung up on this girl he mentioned who did the disappearing act. Could be possible that she somehow snuck back into the picture...? Seems strange that he would just fall off the face off the earth for no good reason.
whirl3daway Posted March 5, 2014 Posted March 5, 2014 I would definitely text him with what you mentioned before, about assuming it's not working out and wishing him well. That way he knows you're done, that you noticed the BS he pulled, and hopefully he feels a bit uncomfortable about it. 1
Author babycakees Posted March 5, 2014 Author Posted March 5, 2014 Sounds like he was pretty hung up on this girl he mentioned who did the disappearing act. Could be possible that she somehow snuck back into the picture...? Seems strange that he would just fall off the face off the earth for no good reason. No. The way the "story" went was she was back with her ex and pregnant by her ex. When he confronted her, she supposedly pulled the whole "you're a great guy but I don't have time for a relationship". Then he found out from other people the real story. I doubt she popped back up. I guess you never know though.
HeartbrokenNewbie Posted March 5, 2014 Posted March 5, 2014 Yea and u will probably never know x disappointing though isnt it x
Author babycakees Posted March 5, 2014 Author Posted March 5, 2014 The more time away from him, the more the entire situation never made much sense. Told me from the beginning he likes to take things slow when it comes to dating and doesn't like to make a girl his "girlfriend" for at least 2 months because he claims every time he puts a label on it, the girl disappears on him. So he said he's never really had a relationship that lasted longer than 6 months. I'm starting to think this guy is a commitment-phobe and runs when things get too "real" or "serious".
HeartbrokenNewbie Posted March 5, 2014 Posted March 5, 2014 Just someone else in the picture Id bet my life on it x he's not a commitment phobe he was keeping his options open x
Author babycakees Posted March 5, 2014 Author Posted March 5, 2014 You are probably right. It's just weird how it was all the sudden. It was like things changed literally from one day to the next. One day he was all about me, then he disappeared. Ughh. It's frustrating.
HappyLove Posted March 5, 2014 Posted March 5, 2014 (edited) Did you meet online? I had this happen to me also OP and it sucks. Nobody deserves to be treated like this. Dated the guy for about 3 months and then poof. Everything was fine. At first you start to worry if they got hurt then you realize they are ignoring you after calling you baby the night before. What a joke! I was so very hurt but held my head high and walked away. Never contacted him again. Then about a month later he texts me saying how wrong it was of him and he's thinking of me. HAHAHA! YEA RIGHT BUDDY! I never texted him back and just left him hanging like the fool he is! It felt soooo good! I would NEVER give him the satisfaction of EVER hearing from me again or ever responding to his pathetic self. I remember being crushed but guess what? I later was SO GRATEFUL that he did things the way he did because it allowed me to really be completely over him and thankful that he never got in my pants. I feel probably more sorry for him now that he's so broken and less of a man. Very grateful over here. Edited March 5, 2014 by HappyLove
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