SelahSue Posted March 3, 2014 Posted March 3, 2014 my friend is married and has kids. but she is in the process of separation and has been "seeing" her ex boyfriend again behind her husbands back. i promised to keep my mouth shut and go along with it. well, i met him 4 weeks ago. we kissed behind her back one drunken night, she found out...was mad but she got over it. well, what she doesnt know is that ive been sleeping with him ever since and im slowly but surely falling in love with him. he calls me all the time, calls me baby, and constantly sees me (for sex and just to hang out)..but he says he still wants her, but wants to take things slow because hes confused and is waiting for her to leave her husband (if that ever happens) so they can POSSIBLY be exclusive..well, my friend tells me he told her he really likes me and that he would be with me if he wasn't so ****ed up and could actually get attached to somebody. i asked him about it and he said hes not a "proper applicant" and that i deserved better and that hes just a slut that's afraid to get attached to somebody again, so that's why he sleeps around. legit. i told him i didn't want to sleep with him anymore and he said its fine, but wanted to save our friendship...yet, he still is very touchy feely and calls me baby and what not. i know hes sleeping with girls, so why cant he just leave me alone? any thoughts? please? dammit?
mammasita Posted March 3, 2014 Posted March 3, 2014 Because you're giving him access. Yes, It's that simple. 3
harrybrown Posted March 3, 2014 Posted March 3, 2014 If you want him out of your life, try the 180. Have you told your friend about your relationship with him? I would consider getting tested for stds. Your friend may want to think about her relationship with him. He may cheat on her.
ascendotum Posted March 3, 2014 Posted March 3, 2014 he might have genuine intimacy issues or it could just be a bunch of bs to sound like he can't settle down, whereas as the real reason is he is having too much fun sleeping with lots of women with no commitment. Intimacy means commitment & obligations to the woman plus also makes sleeping with other women a little bit trickier on the conscience. He is not interested in dealing with that at the current time. He calls you baby, because probably that's what he calls all his fwb/f-buddys out of habit. He most likely genuinely likes you, but you are not special enough to make him stop wanting to have fun with other women. 1
OhThatGirl Posted March 4, 2014 Posted March 4, 2014 You're a terrible friend. You're "falling" for someone who is seeing and sleeping with other people, involved with your married friend, tells you he's not capable of giving you a committed relationship.. And you're asking why he isn't leaving you alone? Why should he? Set some boundaries. Be a good friend. Find your own sleazy man to be hurt by. What is this? Vanderpump Rules? Good Lord. Get it together people. 4
Guy On The Couch Posted March 4, 2014 Posted March 4, 2014 my friend is married and has kids. but she is in the process of separation and has been "seeing" her ex boyfriend again behind her husbands back. i promised to keep my mouth shut and go along with it. well, i met him 4 weeks ago. we kissed behind her back one drunken night, she found out...was mad but she got over it. well, what she doesnt know is that ive been sleeping with him ever since and im slowly but surely falling in love with him. he calls me all the time, calls me baby, and constantly sees me (for sex and just to hang out)..but he says he still wants her, but wants to take things slow because hes confused and is waiting for her to leave her husband (if that ever happens) so they can POSSIBLY be exclusive..well, my friend tells me he told her he really likes me and that he would be with me if he wasn't so ****ed up and could actually get attached to somebody. i asked him about it and he said hes not a "proper applicant" and that i deserved better and that hes just a slut that's afraid to get attached to somebody again, so that's why he sleeps around. legit. i told him i didn't want to sleep with him anymore and he said its fine, but wanted to save our friendship...yet, he still is very touchy feely and calls me baby and what not. i know hes sleeping with girls, so why cant he just leave me alone? any thoughts? please? dammit? That is one messed up love triangle, if that's what you want to call it. Seems like no one in this situation knows what they want. If you want some advice, I would just stop seeing him from here on out.
MrNate 2.0 Posted March 4, 2014 Posted March 4, 2014 I probably shouldn't be laughing, but this is kind of funny. Like attracts like. 1
phineas Posted March 4, 2014 Posted March 4, 2014 You're a terrible friend. You're "falling" for someone who is seeing and sleeping with other people, involved with your married friend, tells you he's not capable of giving you a committed relationship.. And you're asking why he isn't leaving you alone? Why should he? Set some boundaries. Be a good friend. Find your own sleazy man to be hurt by. What is this? Vanderpump Rules? Good Lord. Get it together people. I agree. what a fricken train wreck this is. 1
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