Author lylat333 Posted April 29, 2014 Author Posted April 29, 2014 Well everyone, I'm not proud of this but I'll be transparently honest and say I did something that would have you all think I've learned nothing from being on this site. I spilled my guts to her via a message on match. I think her whole problem with me was she thought she was going to be stuck "dating" me indefinitely and never move towards engagement and starting a family. I told her I don't want to just date her, I want a committed relationship and if the potential is there I believe could be there I want more. Yes, I realize I'm 99.999% sure I am a complete idiot for doing this but I don't know what to say. It's the first and hopefully only time I'll ever step over the line of contacting her after she said not to. If this doesn't change anything then there will be nothing to stop me from being able to move on. I just put my heart out there in a way I never have in my life. Whatever happens... happens. I'll be OK.
Mariposa10 Posted April 29, 2014 Posted April 29, 2014 You haven't said much about this new woman, but... I'm curious (from the little you've shared with us) did you talk about your ex with her?? Well everyone, I'm not proud of this but I'll be transparently honest and say I did something that would have you all think I've learned nothing from being on this site. I spilled my guts to her via a message on match. I think her whole problem with me was she thought she was going to be stuck "dating" me indefinitely and never move towards engagement and starting a family. I told her I don't want to just date her, I want a committed relationship and if the potential is there I believe could be there I want more. Yes, I realize I'm 99.999% sure I am a complete idiot for doing this but I don't know what to say. It's the first and hopefully only time I'll ever step over the line of contacting her after she said not to. If this doesn't change anything then there will be nothing to stop me from being able to move on. I just put my heart out there in a way I never have in my life. Whatever happens... happens. I'll be OK.
Author lylat333 Posted April 29, 2014 Author Posted April 29, 2014 (edited) You haven't said much about this new woman, but... I'm curious (from the little you've shared with us) did you talk about your ex with her?? Very little. Only if that's where the conversation went for some reason, but I barely said anything about her. On the other hand she talked about the guy she was seeing prior to me all the time. I never felt threatened by it or anything but it wasn't my favorite topic of conversation. She read my message on match sometime after midnight last night... visited my profile at least once. I have no idea if I'll hear back. I honestly feel much better putting everything out there. If I don't hear from her it will make it far easier for me to move on because there's nothing left to say. I could play the blame game but I'm not going there. I was sincere about hoping to work something out and unless she comes to me with sincerity she'll hear nothing from me. Edited April 29, 2014 by lylat333
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