Conners Posted February 26, 2014 Posted February 26, 2014 She still loves you. Even though she broke it off with you it doesn't mean she isn't hurting. I broke up with my ex because of his wrong-doing and I still talk to him sometimes because I still love him and want him even though I know it really isn't going to work. I'd say she is feeling the same way as me and second guessing her decision although she probably made the right one. 1
wergotproblems Posted February 26, 2014 Posted February 26, 2014 my situation is almost exactly like yours. she said the same things to me. No contact would probably be the best solution. Do you want to be with her? 1
wergotproblems Posted February 26, 2014 Posted February 26, 2014 and what conners said. yes she still loves you, as does mine. But, in my case, me and her were just prolonging the inevitable. We constantly hooked up with each other up until she found a new boyfriend.
Author kpkballer Posted February 26, 2014 Author Posted February 26, 2014 Yes i do want her back. Bc i know i am capable of change and changing and treat her with more respect.
wergotproblems Posted February 26, 2014 Posted February 26, 2014 yeah man. i feel you. i am the same exact way. you just have to realize that right now you can't just say it with words. you have to prove to her that you're a changed person. By doing this you just have to work on yourself and come out a better person. i made the mistake of telling her how I would change and all that crap. Just do you and she'll see it for herself when the time is right. 2
Conners Posted February 26, 2014 Posted February 26, 2014 Yes i do want her back. Bc i know i am capable of change and changing and treat her with more respect. My ex boyfriend said the same thing to me..he is still saying it and he had more than once chance to treat me right. As the saying goes, you don't really know what you've got until you've lost it. 1
Author kpkballer Posted February 26, 2014 Author Posted February 26, 2014 I have not contacted her since the breakup bc i know im the one Who made the mistakes. but, i did tell her How i felt before we hung up with eachother. Im not playing games but she knows How i feel about her and that i want her back. Im sure If she wants me she will contact me more. 1
OpheliaSong Posted February 26, 2014 Posted February 26, 2014 She probably wants you to fight for her...we don't want men who can let us go so easily. Stop waiting and start getting her back. 1
Author kpkballer Posted February 26, 2014 Author Posted February 26, 2014 These last few days i have been working on myself and saying no matter what happens. If it be back with her or another woman, i would Never treat them like a doormat ever again.. #time to grow up. I am 27
Author kpkballer Posted February 26, 2014 Author Posted February 26, 2014 Im scared of pushing her away and its only been a few days. Dont u think a few weeks of nc would be ok? I see she is trying to keep in some contact with me but, Thats not Why i am going nc.
Conners Posted February 26, 2014 Posted February 26, 2014 She probably wants you to fight for her...we don't want men who can let us go so easily. Stop waiting and start getting her back. THIS 100%. This is how I feel, that if he loved me that he will make the effort to try and win me back and fix things. 2
Author kpkballer Posted February 26, 2014 Author Posted February 26, 2014 Opheliasong.. i am not letting her go easy. She knows big time. I expressed everything i could over the phone. Im hoping in time we can talk face to face. In a few weeks.i think Thats best for Both parties. Even tho i was a a**hole
wergotproblems Posted February 26, 2014 Posted February 26, 2014 yes work on yourself first. show me youve changed. if she wants you back she will let you know. she clearly knows how you feel, she probably just wants to see it. 1
OpheliaSong Posted February 26, 2014 Posted February 26, 2014 Opheliasong.. i am not letting her go easy. She knows big time. I expressed everything i could over the phone. Im hoping in time we can talk face to face. In a few weeks.i think Thats best for Both parties. Even tho i was a a**hole This is when you break out the big guns... Love letters, mixed tapes, flowers, notes on her car to remind her she drives you crazy with affection, etc. Don't wait two weeks or her ardor will cool and someone else may start courting her. Pretty, nice girls are in demand. You messed up so drop the ego and do nice stuff to SHOW her you still care. 1
d0cholliday Posted February 26, 2014 Posted February 26, 2014 Ask yourself this.... 1. What do you think her intentions are? 2. Do you think she is right for you? 3. Can you make things work and be happy together? 4. Do you want to spend the rest of your life with her? 5. Can you thrust her enough to give it another shot? 6. Are you willing to change for her? 7. Can she admit she made a mistake? I had the same problem, lying, flirting with others etc... But never cheated... But she lost her thrust... In my opinion she tried to get some reaction from you with these messages, give yourself a week or two to think things over, and decide what you want to do. While doing that, try to avoid contact with your ex, but since you know her better than me, you should know what kind of effect will your NC have on her. If she is trying to hard to get your attention, and she remembers positive memories, you can use that, in a way that she associate you only with happy memories, not the bad ones. Give it some tought, reasses the situation. Good luck! 1
Author kpkballer Posted February 26, 2014 Author Posted February 26, 2014 Sur sent me another text today saying it would be the last one. Another text from à website talking about my ego. Why does she keep texting me these things 2 days in a row?
Author kpkballer Posted February 26, 2014 Author Posted February 26, 2014 We have been broken up since thursday but, She sent me another text today saying it would be the last one. Another text from a (multimedia) website talking about my ego. Why does she keep texting me these things 2 days in a row?
Author kpkballer Posted February 26, 2014 Author Posted February 26, 2014 And yesterdays text was about (our firsts with eachother) including our first kiss, that she remembers them all.
Author kpkballer Posted February 26, 2014 Author Posted February 26, 2014 Me and my EX girlfriend recently broke up. Make a long story short we have been together for a few years and i have done her Wrong by lying, talking to other women, etc. But have Never had sex with another woman. Anyways she recently told me on thursday she is done and its Never going to work and there will not ever be a chance for us again. Ok. So she text me 2 days later with messages from an online website, about my personality. She then called me 45 minutes later that same day to tell me im a bad person etc. Before we end the convo she said " i just want to make sure you know that its over between us and we are Never getting back together." My question is that If she told me on thursday its over, Why would she Call me back on saturday to "REMIND" me we are not getting back together? I
CaliBabe Posted February 26, 2014 Posted February 26, 2014 Really? Then I really can't understand why she is behaving this way... Just to torture you further? Gosh, thats cruel.
Author kpkballer Posted February 26, 2014 Author Posted February 26, 2014 I havent tried since the last time she called me on saturday to "remind" me we were Never getting back together.
Author kpkballer Posted February 26, 2014 Author Posted February 26, 2014 I really want her back but, i just have to figure out a way to do it the right way and not just to do it. Any suggestions??
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