kpkballer Posted February 24, 2014 Posted February 24, 2014 Me and my EX girlfriend recently broke up. Make a long story short we have been together for a few years and i have done her Wrong by lying, talking to other women, etc. But have Never had sex with another woman. Anyways she recently told me on thursday she is done and its Never going to work and there will not ever be a chance for us again. Ok. So she text me 2 days later with messages from an online website, about my personality. She then called me 45 minutes later that same day to tell me im a bad person etc. Before we end the convo she said " i just want to make sure you know that its over between us and we are Never getting back together." My question is that If she told me on thursday its over, Why would she Call me back on saturday to "REMIND" me we are not getting back together? Im really confused about this.. thanks.
Weallwalkthelongroad Posted February 24, 2014 Posted February 24, 2014 1. She's crazy or 2. She wants you to beg for her not to go.
Author kpkballer Posted February 24, 2014 Author Posted February 24, 2014 Its weird what sur is doing but i do appreciate your opinion.
Author kpkballer Posted February 24, 2014 Author Posted February 24, 2014 She knows How i feel i basically was begging.
Weallwalkthelongroad Posted February 24, 2014 Posted February 24, 2014 It's just my opinion but it sounds like she is trying to manipulate you in to begging for her stay. Totally and completely unfair to you so don't give in to it.
Author kpkballer Posted February 24, 2014 Author Posted February 24, 2014 She knows How i feel i basically was begging.
Author kpkballer Posted February 24, 2014 Author Posted February 24, 2014 How would you handle that? Knowing How much of an ass i was to her
Weallwalkthelongroad Posted February 24, 2014 Posted February 24, 2014 How would you handle that? Knowing How much of an ass i was to her I would just go the NC route. I tried begging for a little bit and it just made me feel so worthless when she stonewalled me every time. I tried asking her out to breakfast to talk and she reacted like I was asking her to go to Vegas and get married. It was at that moment that I realized that I wasn't going to beg anymore. In my eyes, nobody is worth begging for and sacrificing your dignity. Ask yourself this...if you have to beg her to want to be with you, do you really want to be with her?
Author kpkballer Posted February 24, 2014 Author Posted February 24, 2014 Agreed heavily. But just that little suttle Call the day after saying i want u to know im not changing my mind about this breakup its reaaly over. Really throws me offguard.
Weallwalkthelongroad Posted February 24, 2014 Posted February 24, 2014 Of course it throws you off guard. You're human and are emotionally attached to this girl. But for someone to come back just to "remind" you that it's over is pretty childish in my eyes. No need to rub salt in the wound.
Kopite Posted February 24, 2014 Posted February 24, 2014 Of course it throws you off guard. You're human and are emotionally attached to this girl. But for someone to come back just to "remind" you that it's over is pretty childish in my eyes. No need to rub salt in the wound. She's obviously bitter and angry about the lies so it's understandable that she's going to act this way.
Author kpkballer Posted February 24, 2014 Author Posted February 24, 2014 But, Why confirm the breakup 2 days later?
lvroflife Posted February 24, 2014 Posted February 24, 2014 Right now she does not want you. She probably called back because she is very angry with you. You need to leave her alone and let her calm down. And you need assess yourself. Meaning ask yourself why did you do those things to her? Why did you treat her the way you did? Something caused it. And be honest with your answers and to yourself.
Chi townD Posted February 24, 2014 Posted February 24, 2014 She had to convince herself that she's doing the right thing for her. That's why she looked online to find some stupid personality trait website to show herself (and you) why she chose to leave, because of you! (we call this blameshifting). Look, you weren't Boyfriend of the Year, but you didn't need her pointing that out to you. She's demonizing you in her head. Convincing herself that you are a bad choice for a boyfriend and she's making the right choice for herself. So, you need to just ignore it and move on.
Author kpkballer Posted February 24, 2014 Author Posted February 24, 2014 Being me the one that made the mistakes. Should i wait for her to contact me? Or should i in a couple weeks?
Author kpkballer Posted February 24, 2014 Author Posted February 24, 2014 I know i shouldnt contact her but, should i wait for her to contact me? Being the one Who made the mistakes. Or should i Call her in a few weeks?
Author kpkballer Posted February 24, 2014 Author Posted February 24, 2014 Should i wait to Call her? Or wait for her to Call me? Tho im the one Who messes up
Chi townD Posted February 24, 2014 Posted February 24, 2014 If you know that you treated her badly, then you have to figure out why. I strongly suggest that you look into it. Perhaps see a therapist or go to anger management. It may not help, but if she discovers that you're seeking help and guidance on why you treated her the way that you did. That would give you points. Probably won't bring her back, but at least you'll have a better understanding and when you go onto your next relationship, the next girl is going to benefit from your efforts.
herself Posted February 24, 2014 Posted February 24, 2014 She was hoping you would fight for her, ask her to stay. Grow up. Let her go.
Author kpkballer Posted February 24, 2014 Author Posted February 24, 2014 Either way im going to be a better man in general. Treating everyone with more respect. I told her what i felt and i want to change , but she didnt buy it. Would you back off a little?
Chi townD Posted February 24, 2014 Posted February 24, 2014 Either way im going to be a better man in general. Treating everyone with more respect. I told her what i felt and i want to change , but she didnt buy it. Would you back off a little? Well, that should have told you everything you needed to know. She doesn't want to come back. Therefore, it's time to let go and start fixing yourself. Look, I know it seems harsh and that I'm not sympathetic to what you're going through. But, I just don't want you hurting yourself even further.
Author kpkballer Posted February 24, 2014 Author Posted February 24, 2014 Obviously in time, If she wants to come back she will. If not i just need to get my stuff together and move forward. With or without her.
Author kpkballer Posted February 24, 2014 Author Posted February 24, 2014 I have had multiple chances as well.
Author kpkballer Posted February 26, 2014 Author Posted February 26, 2014 (edited) UPDATE: ns Me and my EX girlfriend recently broke up. Make a long story short we have been together for a few years and i have done her Wrong by lying, talking to other women, etc. But have Never had sex with another woman. Anyways she recently told me on thursday she is done and its Never going to work and there will not ever be a chance for us again. Ok. So she text me 2 days later with messages from an online website, about my personality. She then called me 45 minutes later that same day to tell me im a bad person etc. Before we end the convo she said " i just want to make sure you know that its over between us and we are Never getting back together." My question is that If she told me on thursday its over, Why would she Call me back on saturday to "REMIND" me we are not getting back together? Im really confused about this.. Today 3 days later i get a text from her saying "our first kiss, those long tight hugs, the late night conversations, i remember them all". Is what she wrote. What do you think she is doing? Any assistance i would really appreciate. Edited February 26, 2014 by a LoveShack.org Moderator
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