FrostBlaze Posted March 3, 2014 Posted March 3, 2014 (edited) Try and put this in as few words as possible, story would be long. We dated, she ended it, she said she didn't love me, i went NC, she contacted month's later to just be friends. We talked about it, i told her it's not going to happen this "just friends" thing. She went silent for a while then proposed we get back toghether, i said i think about it,trust issues. Two days later the offer was off the table, she changed her mind because... "She just is not ready for a relationship", but still want's to be friends. I told her that's all bs + sugarcoating and she went silent for a while. i just kept her as a friend on FB but we didn't talk for about a month. She initiates contact with me again. I was doing okay moving on and hiting on other women and she knew that and was jealous, told me her self...then goes 180 all of a sudden and says she loves me and starts showing me affection. I argue with her, about the fact that she is so CONFUSED and changes her mind all day and that i can't believe a word she says. Few days later she apologizes for saying that she loved me and getting me in this mess, she doesn't love me "like that", but really apreciates my friendship, i help her through some tough times. After that she talks to me about idk what guy she met at the gym and how they are flirting, trying to make me jealous. Only to later say she only see's him as a friend...like she is trying to reassure me of something?!?. Anyway :|. How can you describe this behavior? And why can't she just let me go/ or why try to make me jealous? I MEAN it's clear she doesn't care, just playing games idk. Everytime i go, she comes looking. Edited March 3, 2014 by FrostBlaze
ctxinfl Posted March 3, 2014 Posted March 3, 2014 Why bother trying to explain, understand, or rationalize? She's playing games with you, intentionally or not. I'd forget about her and not speak with her again. 1
Author FrostBlaze Posted March 3, 2014 Author Posted March 3, 2014 I am trying to figure out why she does this, so i can understand it and well, avoid it in the future if necesarry. + I still care for her to some degree, this all just went to **** . We used to be friends for YEaRS, then we dated, she wants to just go back to friends, i can't. But i can't completely push her away yet. And why do they play games? I never understood that.
ctxinfl Posted March 3, 2014 Posted March 3, 2014 I spent years trying to understand why some people behave the way they do. All it did was drive me up the wall, making me irritable, angry, and confused. I'm not saying to never try to figure some people out, though there comes a point when trying to figure out crazy just isn't worth your time or your mental health. 1
CarrieT Posted March 3, 2014 Posted March 3, 2014 What you are describing is known as BEING YOUNG and learning how to have relationships. Many, many people - not just girls - pull people close to them and them push them away; moving them from front burners to back burners, all the while trying to figure out their own heart and their own psyche. It just means they aren't ready for a relationship but are still in the process of figuring out the ebbs and flows of being part of a couple. 1
brok3npromise Posted March 3, 2014 Posted March 3, 2014 No. Not all women behave this way. This woman is playing head games with you. I'd drop her if I were you.
HeartbrokenNewbie Posted March 3, 2014 Posted March 3, 2014 Its quite simple... she doesnt want u but she doesnt want anyone else to have u... push-pull effect quite normal at the end of a relationship x its dead buddy u need to walk away and move on or this will continue xx 1
Author FrostBlaze Posted March 3, 2014 Author Posted March 3, 2014 What you are describing is known as BEING YOUNG and learning how to have relationships. Many, many people - not just girls - pull people close to them and them push them away; moving them from front burners to back burners, all the while trying to figure out their own heart and their own psyche. It just means they aren't ready for a relationship but are still in the process of figuring out the ebbs and flows of being part of a couple. I practically told her the same thing but with my own words. Well that's a bummer, i don't know what i was hoping for. I still care but at the same time i don't, i mean i could never get BACK with her, but i find it hard to let her go when i see her in pain. And yeah i know "it's a Trap" .xD General Akhbar. I was thinking this whole not wanting anyone else to have me was becuase she still cared.^^ Guess i was wrong. I really don't know women don't judge.
HeartbrokenNewbie Posted March 3, 2014 Posted March 3, 2014 "I still care but at the same time i don't, i mean i could never get BACK with her, but i find it hard to let her go" u just said it all & thats exactly what she is thinking too hence her actions... its over... u just both need to cut the strings xx
Author FrostBlaze Posted March 3, 2014 Author Posted March 3, 2014 Well that made me feel dumb, but it was "mind opening" to some extent. I always cut ties and never looked for her, but she kept looking for me and i fell for it by accepting to talk. I am not over it as much as i want to be, yet i don't play with her head. Well thanks.
HeartbrokenNewbie Posted March 3, 2014 Posted March 3, 2014 Because u never really get over an ex u just move on... this is why NC is so important... u are gonna be okay but u know what u need to do x good luck xx
Author FrostBlaze Posted March 3, 2014 Author Posted March 3, 2014 ^_^ not like i'd ever take her back. But yeah i guess she might consider it that way.
kjackson1 Posted March 3, 2014 Posted March 3, 2014 (edited) No need to solve this puzzle, go full no contact and block her. She is stringing you along like a puppet. It isn't fair to you. NEXT Edited March 3, 2014 by kjackson1
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